AboutAnalisa Expertise Questions related to Swinging i.e. Why did you choose to become a swinger, He/She wants
to but I have doubts, How to begin/get started, What is the purpose of swinging, Why
would you become a swinger, Should we/shouldn't we, Rules (Are/Aren't they needed,
What should they be, What should be non-negotiable, What can be compromised, What to
do if rules are ignored or broken), House vs. private parties, Resources to locate other
swingers, What does it mean to take one for the team
Questions we can't answer: Any alternative sexual questions other than swinging, i.e.
Bestiality, Gang Banging, anything to do with minors, B/D or S&M, toilet games, etc. We also don't feel proficient in answering in depth relationship questions, we are not marriage/relationship counselors, if we receive a question that falls into that category we will refer you to seek professional help.
Experience Over 10 years in the Lifestyle, numerous events & encounters (some pleasant & enjoyable and others that were less than)
Organizations NASCA, Good Vibrations, C4P
Education/Credentials Both of us are college educated professionals.
Question QUESTION: How does "the guest" bring up the idea of a threesome? Particularly if by "guest" I mean a single bi-female who is a friend of the couple.
ANSWER: Fiona V,
You need to approach the woman in the relationship as nothing good will happen if she doesn't agree. You can ask her how she feels about girl/girl action or even try gently seducing her.
Hope this helps,
Analisa
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QUESTION: What do you mean exactly when you say "gently seducing?" Can you give an example? Also, what are some possible ways to ask about girl/girl action?
Answer Fiona,
As far as "gently seducing" I would recommend you think about all the things you like to have done to you . . . and do the same towards her.
The best way to ask about girl/girl is to either get her to talk about any previous experimenting she's done or talk about your previous experiences.
Also you can try reading prior answers, I have given some pretty explicit instructions before. Here is one of them:
Dear Questioner,
I would suggest that you think about what you like having done to you. What turns you on the most?
I can tell you what I truly like about being with another woman, it's not so much the sex, it's the softness, the silkiness of her skin, the softness of her hair, the smell of her skin, the touches, the feel. Women are like steel wrapped in silk and velvet. A combination of muscles, strength and vulnerability all wrapped up just waiting to be stroked and kissed, licked and tasted, rubbed and touched.
So you first gently kiss lips touching, tongue slipping out tasting, teasing, licking then sucking and pulling her tongue into your mouth. Nibble on her lip, biting gently, work around to the edge of her jaw and along to her earlobe where again you nibble and suck just a bit now kiss and nibble your way down her neck to her shoulder. (All the while I would suggest your hands start out gently stroking her back and shoulders and move down to her hips and one to a breast but slowly (don't grab like a teenage boy on a first date). Then go back to her mouth for a long soulful kiss. (Remember this is more the experience than the sex, the sex will happen I promise.) Now start trailing little moist kisses down the other side of her neck to the other earlobe, nibble on the earlobe and down her neck to her breast. Kiss and gently rub her breast touch everywhere right up to the nipple without actually touching the nipple for a couple minutes the suddenly take the whole nipple in your mouth and gently suck it. While doing this caress her other breast with your hand and then slowly caress her stomach, move over to the other nipple with your mouth and let your hand slip lower toward her thighs, get close to her crotch but don't actually touch. Go back up and kiss her pressing your breasts to hers and your crotch to hers. Now work your way back down to her breasts, stop just for a bit of sucking to each nipple, kiss your way down her stomach. Kiss her on her thighs, a bit of nibbling or gentling biting can be arousing.
Here is where things get a bit technical, I suggest you think of this part more like giving head. The clit is like a miniature uncircumcised penis, once you locate it be careful (DO NOT BITE, unless asked to, and then only gently) I usually start by licking in what I call full tongue strokes, like you're licking an ice cream cone. Then as she becomes more excited and aroused I change to a harder tongue approach. Where my tongue is more pointed and I am flicking it concentrating the majority of my attention to the sensitive underside. I also at this time (you may or may not choose to do this your first time) insert my index and middle finger of my right hand (since I am rt handed) into her with my palm facing up and proceed to curl them towards me in a "come here" gesture to stimulate her "G spot". (I am not promoting this guy but, he does provide the best free info I've seen so far on the internet http://www.jasonjulius.com/female-g-spot-stimulation-techniques-tutorial-video/)
Let me know how it all goes and again . . . relax, you'll be fine.
