Adult Swinging/Less than perfect body

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Expert: Analisa - 9/18/2009


Question
Why does it seem like most people involved in the LS have flawless bodies?  I had a poorly done breast reduction and now have some wide scars under each breast and am missing a nipple.  I'm an extremely confident person but this 'flaw' has kept me from exploring a LS that I am extremely interested in.  Do I need to tell potential partners about this?  What kind of reaction will I get if I don't 'disclose' in advance?

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Keis,

I am not certain where it is that you are looking, that all you find are "flawless bodies". The majority of people I know and party with are all flawed somewhat even the "perfect" people.  

I would suggest that you concentrate less on your "flaws" and more on just enjoying yourself.  The majority of folks I know would either not notice this or not care and the few that would notice/care aren't people I would want to party with anyway. If you bring it up, then it just becomes the center of attention. So no I would not go around telling folks. Trust me, they probably have a flaw or two that they are worried you will notice.

Hope this helps,
Analisa

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