Expert: Guycurious - 6/1/2011

Question
Me and my boyfriend have talked about swinging,and are both curious, the thing is were not sure if we want to have sex with others or just watch an have people watch us. Were a bit confused as to where to start and if this would be acceptable. Hope you can help.
thanks

Answer
First step, sit down and have an open and honest conversation with each other.  Talk about your fears, ground rules, do's and don'ts.  Stick to the ground rules at all times.

There's never any pressure to participate with others at a club.  A simple no thank you will suffice.  Our first time out we didn't involve anyone else, we just played with each other in front of others.  Don't let the heat of the moment get the better of you and change your ground rules.  After the night is over and both of you have had some time to process the emotions of the evening then sit back down and talk about it.  Figure out if this is something the two of you are interested in.  If so, make plans for the next weekend !

We've never had someone try and push their way into our playtime. People will approach and ask if they may join in.  Remember the ground rules at all times.  My wife and I have a discreet signal we can flash to the other when such situations arise to let the other know we're not interested in another person/couple.  

Keep the conversations open and honest.  Life is too short to sit back and wonder, "What if....."

Have fun, be safe.  Write back and we can talk further.