Expert: Michael Andrews - 6/11/2011

Question
My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 2years. We both have been talking about starting to swing. (not full blown swinging but he just wants to watch me w various women and men). The women are no problem. I've always been a little bi curious but never acted on it. His fantasy is to watch me have sex with another man that is well endowed.
We are sexually satisfied with each other. But w are all about trying new things. I have told my bf that I would try another man as long as he really thought he would be alright with it. we have been talking about this for about a year or so. It hasn't happened yet. He keeps reasking if I really want it. And asking if I would do this if I was single. I'm a real modest woman and it does make me nervous. I've only been with one other man besides my current bf. And adding another # doesn't thrill me. He not only asks if I'm sure I want to do this, but he also asks if I want more experience. But I'm very open and I really do want to try this how do I get him to stop asking over and over and just get him to act?

Answer
Very sorry for the delay in answering - computer problems! Many people, especially men, get a thrill out of the thought of swinging but when it comes to taking action never actually making it happen. Ask him if he really is serious about this. If he says he is then work with him proactively - set up  profile on an online swingers site, start talking to people, etc. Maybe even arrange a night at a local swingers club. Throughout this you should try to keep reassuring him with things like, "Thank you darling. I love you and you are an amazing man to have the strength and courage to allow me to be with other men without you getting jealous. There aren't many men as strong as you are to do that.

See how that goes!

Best to you,

Mike