Expert: Guycurious - 6/30/2011

Question
I ask this yesterday but other expert just says to leave husband.  I dont want to leave.  Do I have to do all this thing for him not to make me divorce?  I want him to just make me do less of crazy sexed.  How do I get him this way?  Please tell me.

QUESTION: Can you tell me what I need to do not to be divorced for sex?  I am 25 and married 3 years to smart husband who makes lot money for us to live good.  Problem started last year, he told me I was sex boring and needed experience. I agreed that I not know very much.  Then Kevin, my husband, had 3 friends of his come over one night and made me have sex with them.  He just watched and told me what to do.  I thought it was smart to learn and please him. It was ok, I did blowjobs and then sex.  I felt thrill that Kevin liked it and would love me more.  Last month it was 5 men friends plus another girl.  Kevin had sex with the girl and then after all men were finished sex with us, some of the men insist me and girl to do each other and Kevin agreed.  The girl licked me in vagina and then even in bottomhole.  I had to do the same and drink down mens orgasims from her body holes.



I do all this sex because I love Kevin and he is nicer now to me and good looking too but I feel not so good.  Then last weekend Kevin had my brother over.  They are friends and is how we met.  Kevin said for me to strip and serve dinner without clothes.  Then he and my brother talked and Kevin said he could have incest sex with my bottom or mouth.  I refuse bottom but let my brother have blow job at same time Kevin put in my bottomhole.

After brother left, I ask Kevin while he makes me do all this.  I cry and yell at him.  He says it makes me prettier to him and that he thinks it is very good for both of us.  He says he pushing my limits and this is how sex must be in our marriage forever.  I also know he made some tapes of all sex times.  I feel like a whore to Kevin and not real wife.  I found his friends like to talk about me like this too and I cry over having my brother's orgasim in my mouth.


ANSWER: this is sexual abuse..STOP DOING these things and leave this jerk as soon AS POSSIBLE..

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QUESTION: Sorry but I cant leave sexual abuse as reason because I did these things and he just watch me with people...I thought Kevin love me more with all experiences.  I still love him with nice things he gives me but am worried about next he will want more crazy things.  He said most women will do it with dog if husband tells them.  I dont want that or divorce, just to tell him no more of crazy things.  If he wants me only is that ok?  I dont want to go back to Jaipur.  Maybe just have small sex types with not girls or brother.  How to get him to agree with that style?

Answer
I'm afraid I agree with the others who have already given you their opinions.  Leave this guy immediately.  His actions are not that of a loving husband but of a domineering and controlling sociopath.  No husband would force his wife to have sex with other people just for his pleasure.

The answer is clear, you need to end this.