Expert: Guycurious - 6/1/2011

Question
My fiancee and I have been together for about 2 and a half years now. We both are very sexual people and have had our fun in the past. When we first started seeing each other it was strictly as friends and then we caught feelings although he was still in his "have fun" mode and cheated on me. I have completely forgiven him for it and fully trust him now but the only issue I'm having is appearance. My fiancee is a very good looking man and I am an overweight average female. All the girls he's been with before me were TINY and I've the biggest girl he's ever been with! This past weekend we talked about having a threesome (even though the time he cheated on me was because we've talked about doing it with the same girl he cheated on me with - that was before he cheated)well I'm for having a threesome because I consider myself a bi-sexual female and I've been the outsider for other couples before and enjoyed it. My only fear is that he will only want to do it with a TINY girl. I think all types of women are beautiful but I would be more comfortable with a female closer to my size! But he stated that he has to feel attracted to her too....but does that mean he's not attracted to me because I'm bigger? I'm just a bit confused but am really interested in doing this.......I guess my biggest fear is my weight and I'm scared that he will miss being with a small woman and leave me. Does this happen often?? He has had threesomes as well but never with someone he loved.....I have before with an ex and he left me for the girl.......What should I do?

Answer
Based on what you've told me I think it may be detrimental to your relationship to involve a third person.  

Okay, ask yourself this question.  Do you want to continue in a relationship where you are going to be constantly worried about him leaving you for someone smaller ?  If you are worried now that he could leave you for someone smaller, chances are you'll be worried about it down the road.  Not a good position to be in.

People are attracted to others for different reasons.  Sometimes it is based solely on looks, sometimes on intellect, on personality.  Maybe your fiancee is not typically attracted to bigger women but something about you made him see past that.  Personality, charm, intellect ?  

I'd suggest having a conversation with him and explain your fears.  If the two of you cannot agree on a particular body type for your third person then I'd suggest letting go of the idea.  You may inadvertently open a Pandora's box of trouble for your relationship.

Have fun, be safe.