Expert: Guycurious - 8/14/2011

Question
My wife and I have been in the swing lifestyle since January this year.  We met a couple (I'll call them Don & Lacy) that we have been with on several occasions.  One of Don & Lacy's rules was "No separate play."  My wife and Don really hit it off and Lacy became jealous.  Lacy put a stop to the play about two months ago but my wife and Don did not want to stop so Don sneaks without Lacy's knowledge.  My wife and I have talked about this and we both consider Don to be cheating on his wife.  Our problem is we don't know what to do about it and my wife really enjoys being with Don.  Any suggestions?

Answer
I agree with you, Don is cheating on his wife.  The only way people can participate in the Lifestyle is if both agree to and abide by the ground rules, period.  

My suggestion, stop seeing Don.  Obviously his wife is not ready for the Lifestyle and Don should respect his wife and respect her wishes.  Down the road maybe they can revisit the topic.  

I know it's hard to find another Lifestyle couple for an ongoing relationship but this could turn ugly if Don's wife finds out.  Ask your self this question, if you found out your wife was seeing another guy behind your back and against your wishes, how would you feel ?

I hope this helps and good luck.