Expert: Michael Andrews - 1/31/2012

Question
History been married for 23 years. Join nude club Oct 2011 this is first time for that and 1/28/2012 first time for this swinging thing. we are very happy with our marriage and i was the one that said ok we can go to this birthday swinging party. Our first time was this pasted Saturday. I gave my husband a blow job he then had me stand outside viewing window and watch him do a woman. I was not to play at all that night only he was. The person we know a little bit from friends. she not prettier than me but my blood was boiling. Is this because i was not in room and not allowed to play? To be fair we are going to a club this Saturday and i play and he watches only like i had to do on our VERY first time every to swinging. I had been overweight for years like 275 now i am 135 so i have always been jealous of my husband. he is very nice looking and 6 ft 3 ins and when hard he is about 7.5. He is the only man I have every been with. We married when I was 18 and have 2 kids now in there 20's. He had quiet a few women before we were married and I did not know anything. Is this why I am jealous or is it that we will see the woman he did again. Where we are going Saturday for me to play we will not know anyone there or see them again. Please advise my husband is my life and I don't want to ruin what we have. Should we revisit everything after he has to watch me play and he has to stand out and watch like I did.

Answer
The two of you need to have an honest discussion about why you both want to get involved in swinging. Is it to enhance your relationship or are there things about your sex life that you and/or your partner feel are missing that you think swinging would help? If swinging isn't about the former you are going to run into problems.
Once you establish that you want to get involved to enhance not replace your sex life then you can establish some rules that you are both happy with.
Both these steps are critical to your 'success'.
Hope this helps!

All the best,

Michael