About Jeff & Kris Booth Expertise Singles and swinging, how to get started, what to expect, dealing with jealousy, finding clubs, throwing parties.
Experience 7 years in swinging, involved with planning and presentations for several Lifestyles Conventions, author of Guide to Alternative Lifestyles, and in an article on sexuality.org, the author states we are reputed to hold the best swing parties on the West Coast.
Publications Loving Alternatives magazine, AVN Online magazine, editors of sexinreview.com, eroticguide.com, eroticuniversity.com, and we have been featured on Extra, Leeza, The X Show, Dr. Susan Block Show, KROQ Kevin and Bean show, Rouze.com, and Los Angeles magazine.
Expert: Jeff & Kris Booth Date: 6/12/2001 Subject: Bisex men in swinging
Question Do you think that NASCA has any responsibility to promote tolerance of (but not irresponsibility of ) bisexual men in swinging. ---The reason I ask is that NASCA holds up standards for the lifestyle - such as "NO means NO", no name dropping, etc. AS a result, where people know of NASCA and have attended parties or clubs who ascribe to NASCA's guidelines, the expections are higher and the behavior is better. Where NASCA is not known (such as in New Mexico) behavior is generally awful, and "NO means NO" has practically never been heard of... Or, do you think that the status quo about bisexual men is good enough? I take the status quo to be that its just fine for women to claim that they are bisexual, to act bisexual, to ignore men in some threesomes and foursomes and play with a woman the entire time but never, ever should a man give voice to interest in bisex within 3 mile of a swingers gathering or club. Which? I ask in sincere interest. Thanks, LNB
Answer Its a good question, and there is no easy answer. I believe there are two seperate factors in this. The first is the prevelance of homophobia in our culture. The second is the perceived and somewhat real concern that bisexual men could pose a greater risk factor for AIDS. The second, of course, is often used to justify the first.
Part of what keeps AIDS levels fairly low in swinger circles is the lower likelihood of female to male or female to female transmission, which reduces the likelihood of AIDS spreading rapidly within a primarily heterosexual community. A bisexual man who practices unprotected anal sex is a much greater risk factor for a woman than having sex with a strictly heterosexual male.
Personally, I don't think it is possible to even begin to change attitudes until you eliminate the AIDS issue. In the 70's, especially in California, there was a lot more tolerance. Now though, as liberal as we are in California, you see the same bisexual male prejudices. There are bisexual men in swinging, but they are certainly very low profile.
So, while I may not think the status quo is necessarily a good thing, I do think that we will have to live with things as they are for quite awhile.
