About Jeff & Kris Booth Expertise Singles and swinging, how to get started, what to expect, dealing with jealousy, finding clubs, throwing parties.
Experience 7 years in swinging, involved with planning and presentations for several Lifestyles Conventions, author of Guide to Alternative Lifestyles, and in an article on sexuality.org, the author states we are reputed to hold the best swing parties on the West Coast.
Publications Loving Alternatives magazine, AVN Online magazine, editors of sexinreview.com, eroticguide.com, eroticuniversity.com, and we have been featured on Extra, Leeza, The X Show, Dr. Susan Block Show, KROQ Kevin and Bean show, Rouze.com, and Los Angeles magazine.
Expert: Jeff & Kris Booth Date: 4/21/2001 Subject: Curious about lifestyle
Question Hello Booths,
I am a newbie at this lifestyle and have never participated in it but extremely curious. I am single and have been invited by a few but turned them down politely for various reasons.
My main concerns are that I am strictly straight 8 and also 55 yo. I don't look it and have the experience of a pro but I think it will be a drawback.
I would like to know if there are more email sites available besides AFF and its group.
Also,I have to think about discretion,jealousy, etc. How welcome is a single male? I am a nice looking guy,about6'2" and 195#. Professional,clean and nice dresser.
I live in the Little Rock,AR area. Also, is there some site that you can use your webcam with others?
Thank you,
HLS
Answer It is very unusual for single guys to get invited to swing events, so consider yourself very lucky there. If a couple or a single girl brings you, you will be much more accepted than if you are on your own- actually, in most cases if you were on your own you would not get invited.
Age typically does not matter if you think and act young. There is very little bisexuality among males (basically it is taboo, largely due to the concern that bisexual men are at a higher risk for AIDS), although it is common among women.
An important rule is to chat up the couple, not just the woman. Best to be on the husband's good side before you go off with his lady. In some cases they also may be looking for a threesome (and I have been in this situation many times), but typically the guys do not interact but work together to pleasure the woman. Sometimes the other guy is just interested in watching. It never hurts to ask what they are interested in before you go off with them.
Anything goes if you are with a group of inexperienced swingers, but with more experienced established crowds there are usually very few problems with jealousy, although it can happen from time to time. Just be polite and always back off if a couple seems to be having problems. Never take sides- they need to work it out themselves.
Discretion is seldom a problem- everyone is there for the same reason.
We don't know additional Web sites beyond AFF (Adult Friend Fionder). We mention it only because we know a lot of swingers who use it.
Webcams are a little off topic, so we can't be of much help there
