Expert: Webby & Raine - 12/25/2003

Question
Hi!  My name in Nick (27 years old), my wife, Crystal, is (25).  We live in a smaller community near Beckley or Charleston WV and cannot seem to find anyone to meet.  We have met very few on Yahoo chat but can't seem to find any one we have a mutual attraction with.  Not much choice around here.  LOL  Are we too picky?  Do you know where we can meet other bi women or couples?  We have only done this once before with a girl friend of my wifes, and we both enjoyed the experience.  That friend no longer lives here though.

Answer
To be honest, it is generally very wise to be picky when living in a smaller community, while being an active swinging couple.

The thing to remember in living in a smaller community is that if something goes wrong (an error in judgement resulting in a breach of trust, for example), the word of your participation in the Lifestyle is more apt to spread.

There are two safe approaches to this problem.

The first is to take your swinging activities out of the area you live in.  This is something that I (Webby) had to do a number of years ago, when I was living in a very small community in the Midwest. for about a year and a half.  We had to choose between swinging in Kansas City or Omaha.  What we wound up doing was to take overnight or weekend trips to Kansas City, where we would enjoy various off-premises and on-premises parties and clubs.

You would have good choices between Pure Social Club in Newport, KY (website at http://www.puresocialclub.com/ for information), Swingers Palace in Pittsburgh, PA (website at http://www.swingers-palace.com/ for information), or D.C. Couples in the Washington, DC Metro Area (website at http://www.dccouples.com/ for information) if you are looking for overnight or weekend trips.

If you want to stay close to home while meeting other quality swingers, you should try to set up meetings with other members of SwapperNet or Fantasy Swingers in your area.  You can find SwapperNet at http://www.swappernet.com/ and Fantasy Swingers at http://www.fantasyswingers.com/ if you wish.  Make sure to keep your activities confined to others' private homes and out of town motels.

We hope this helps!

Sincerely,
Webby & Raine
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