About Jeff & Kris Booth Expertise Singles and swinging, how to get started, what to expect, dealing with jealousy, finding clubs, throwing parties.
Experience 7 years in swinging, involved with planning and presentations for several Lifestyles Conventions, author of Guide to Alternative Lifestyles, and in an article on sexuality.org, the author states we are reputed to hold the best swing parties on the West Coast.
Publications Loving Alternatives magazine, AVN Online magazine, editors of sexinreview.com, eroticguide.com, eroticuniversity.com, and we have been featured on Extra, Leeza, The X Show, Dr. Susan Block Show, KROQ Kevin and Bean show, Rouze.com, and Los Angeles magazine.
Expert: Jeff & Kris Booth Date: 5/24/2001 Subject: Hi there. My friends just...
Question Hi there. My friends just informed me that they were swingers. I want to be open minded, but dont know much about the lifestyle. Can you tell me a bit about it? Also, they invited me to one of thier paties. I am curious. What are they like? Should I go? Any information or advice you could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks very much.
Answer Private parties are the absolute best way to exerience swinging. Most swing parties are like any other party, except that the people seem to know each other a little better than at most parties. People will be very friendly, and unlike many parties you might attend in the regular world, it is unlikely you'll wind up sitting by yourself or wondering who to talk to. People tend to be quite friendly and outgoing. Many of them will also probably want to have sex with you.
At some point in a conversation, the person you are with may ask, "Would you like to go off to one of the rooms?" or "would you like to play?" or something similar. There are usually bedrooms set aside for sexual play. You are absolutely allowed to say no, in fact, respecting someone's no is a cardinal rule. A polite no thank you is perfectly acceptable. You are not required to give an explanation.
Of course, you can also say yes, or even ask someone yourself. You can also set any ground rules you might have, such as condom use. Being new, unless you are very adventurous, you might also want to avoid rooms with a lot of beds together (often called orgy rooms)where sometimes others may slip into your private party.
One problem I have seen repeatedly for newer women is when they are with someone and someone else starts touching them. If they say nothing and try to ignore it, that other person will take it as an invitation. Personally, I hate it when people try to jump in and we discourage it at our parties. You can move their hand, shake your head no, or tell them you want to be alone. They'll go away and you can concentrate on what you are doing.
You might wind up talking to a couple and they both ask you to go off. Bisexuality among women is very common. You have to decide how you want to deal with that ahead of time, but if you go off with a couple, you should make it clear whether you expect to play with both of them or just him.
Your hosts will explain anyhting that is unique to their parties, and introduce you around. You are certainly under no obligation to have sex with anyone, but at the same time, it is an environment where you can if you want to.
