About Scotto Expertise I can answer questions ranging from:
People who want to swing but have questions.
People who want to put their toe in the water but don't want to become swingers.
Experience I have participated in numerous swinging situations in the past including moresomes and threesomes including mfm and fmf types.
Publications literotica.com
Education/Credentials Bachelors with some Masters work in business.
Expert: Scotto Date: 10/24/2007 Subject: New to swinging
Question My b/f and I have been discussing for months about doing a mff or joining a couple. We met a couple a few days ago and we enjoyed their company but when we went home with them things went a little bit further than what I expected. He still wants to pursue this lifestyle. He has had experiences with couples before in mmf. I had an experience with MMMF. However, since our relationship is still so new and even though we role play about it during sex and it seems like it would be hot to watch him and be watched...reality sets in and I am not sure if I can watch him get excited about another woman. He wants to go to a swingers party this weekend and I am not too sure what I wanna do. Any suggestions?
Answer This is easy--if you aren't sure then don't go or go only with the strict interpretation beforehand that you agree no matter what happens that you will not engage with other couples. Make sure you outline the groundrules 100% BEFORE you go and not on the fly.
If you want a fantasy to remain a fantasy there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Women seem better to manage that facet of life then men do in my opinion. An example of men thinking is that if the thought of something turns you on then by all means lets do it. Women seem more disciplined to allow something to remain the pot at the end of the rainbow in terms of future pleasure. If you are jealous at this point in your relationship or unsure of how you would react tell him. There are worse things to hear from someone important to you then "You are so important to me that I am not sure I want to share you with anyone else at this stage of my life." That always leave the door open for a future more secure stage of your relationship where you are okay with things--if that's what you and he choose.
