Question My husband and i decided to swing to add some interest to our sex life. After some searcing we were approached by a couple that had never done this before either, from a webswite that we were both on, and we decided to meet after about a month of talking via internet and phone.(we didn't want any crazies)So after meeting and talking we all had a mutual liking for eachother. After meeting in person for about a month, it was obvious that there was a lot of sexual tension between the other husband and myself, so we went into the other room and left my husband and the other wife alone. During this time the other husband got up and went to the kitchen and turned the lights on and scared them and yelled "hand check". He then returned to the room that we were in and tried to ge me to sleep with him. I don't have a problem with that necessarily but we were in his and his wife's bed and that I have a major problem with. Anyway we did fool around a little and then we left and went home. That week they decided that they wanted this to happen the following weekend and they couldn't wait till payday to get a hotel room-they wanted it in their house. I knew this was a bad idea from the get go but they all ganged up on me and I said ok. In the meantime we find out that the other husband had a jealousy issue years prior and was very very jealous. With that being said we all met at their house and went through with with it (or some of us tried)I found out that while the other husband was making sure the doors were locked he listened by the door to the room that my husband and his wife were in and jealousy filled him and to make a long story short he couldn't go through with it and my husband and his wife did. The other husband has decided since that he thinks he's no longer interested in doing it and they want to be friends with us and I am having trouble dealing with looking at them knowing my husband and her slept together and we didn't. My husband and i decided that before this happened that if it did that i could sleep with someone to 'square it up' but i am finding myself resenting the hell out of these people and now i have to look at them because my husband likes hanging around with them and i dont want to unless he sleeps with me. So i guess my question is, am i going overboard about this or do i have the right to be pissed because they changed their minds and now just want to be friends? because i dont think I can be friends unless it's settled between us. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated, thanks Grace
Answer Hi,
YOur not going overboard because her husband chickened out while his wife got to enjoy sex with your husband. The solution is simple.. stop seeing them for a while and swap with another couple. Once all that is done , you can go to being friends with this couple and trust me it wont bug you that your husband and his wife had already done it.
