Expert: Anita Roberts Date: 12/13/2004 Subject: Starters?
Question What exactly is swinging? I'm interested but worried I may look crazy if I bring it up to others. I think I know, but I need to be sure. How does a couple get started in the swinging scene? Is there anything that you can give me a heads up about before I try the experience? I'm open to any and all of your suggestions and or experiences. Thanks.
Answer Basically, swinging is sex with strangers. To be a little more specific, sex with one or more people you have recently or just met.
Getting started is fairly easy. Get an account with SwapperNet or some other online swapper network, enter a description of yourself and your SO, then wait. You should receive messages from interested people fairly quickly. If you don't get any responses, then edit your profile, perhaps add photos (if you don't already have them).
Heads-up? There is one thing you have to know. No means no. No explanation or excuses need be offered. At the word no, whatever is happening stops. Anyone involved can say it, it doesn't matter although the rule is mostly for the convenience of the women in swinging. If you never forget this rule then you will do well in swinging.
If you can join a local swinger's club, that might prove helpful. You meet people face-to-face and everybody gets to evaluate a possible partner.
