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Expert: Jeff & Kris Booth Date: 10/10/2001 Subject: Threesomes
Question Hello
My name is Annette and I am 19 years old.
My best friend Rob has been dating another friend of mine named Andrea. Lately the subject of us having a threesome has been coming up on almost a daily basis. I love Rob to death and I have been seriously considering it, since they are friends and it isn't as if they are complete strangers, but I have never been with another female. Don't get me wrong, I am not afraid of bisexuals, Andrea herself is bi, and she is attractive, but I don't quite know how a threesome works or what you are supposed to do. Could you please help me?
Annette
Answer It seems pretty clear that this is something you want to try. Threesomes can be a very wonderful and erotic experience, but very different from one on one encounters.
The fact that Andrea is bi actually makes it easier, as it helps mute some of the potential jealousy issues on her part, especially if you are interested in exploring this side of your sexuality.
I'd plan an evening of it. Nice dinner in, time for relaxing and for everyone to get comfortable. Let things progress at their own pace.
Since you have never been with a woman before, you'll probably let her take the lead (although I have seen first timers just really go for it). Just do what seems fun to try.
The great thing about threesomes is that it is like a three ring circus. There are lots of things to grab your attention. This can be a little confusing at first, but you don't need to overthink it.
If all three of you are involved sexually, it is a lot easier. You can wear the guy out, the two girls can concentrate on each other for awhile while he watches, and by then he is usually ready to go again. Threesomes do tend to take a lot more time than sex between just two people. There are just so many more things to do.
There is also a lot less for you to worry about because you are the third person to this relationship. For the guy, he has to make sure that he is not focusing all his attention on the new girl and not enough on his partner. The girl needs to make sure that her guy is being included and she doesn't spend all of her time focusing on the new girl.
As for you, you'll get lots of attention from both of them, which can be absolutely wonderful. Feel free to explore, kiss, lick, touch. Let this be an opportunity to really let yourself go.
The fact that you know them and feel comfortable with them will make it a lot easier. Sometimes it feels a little strange at first to go from a friendship to something sexual, but that tends to pass pretty quick, especially if you just let it go, don't worry about it, and focus on the sex. Once you let go of any cultural condition, sex with friends can be a warm, loving and enriching experience.
Most people never get to experience this sort of thing, and when the opportunity comes, I see no reason in this case not to take advantage of it.
