About Mellisa Expertise I can try to answer all questions about the swinging scene. Bi, straight, single men, marrid men, couples, clubs, parties and swinging etiquette. I also have many friends in the scene who would be able to help me with questions I do not know the answers to.
Experience I have been a swingers for ten years with my husband. We have arranged social and swinging meets and I also help run a swingers website and chat room. I have also attended clubs and parties.
Expert: Mellisa Date: 8/6/2006 Subject: advice on a strange situation
Question My best friend and her husband broke up over a year ago, and he moved away. They are not divorced yet, and as far as she says he is dating other women. She is not. She plans to tell him that she is still in love with him and devoted to him. She only wants him. She wants a relationship with him,and if he wants other women also, that is fine just as long as she can be in his life too. They also have one child. I am concerned about this. Am I over reacting,and maybe this situation would work for them since most of there fights in the past steemed from affairs? I dont know but I would like to know what you think and if you are pro or con on this. What should I tell her? She seems to think this will maintain harmony and keep her childs dad in the picture and in her life also. I dont know. Thank you. Mary
Answer This really would not be classed as swinging, It would be an open relationship, which is totally different.
However...Swinging should not interfere with family life or children, its only an addition to a hetrosexual sex life and should be fun and mutual.
I realise some women will do anything to keep thier man and it may seam very unnatural to you for her to do this. She may not have full control over her feeling at present, but realy all you can do as a friend is stand by her desicion and be there when you are needed. I am sure she will not thank you for interfering no matter how genuine and worried you are. Be a friend and just be there.
