Expert: Anita Roberts Date: 2/27/2003 Subject: extramarital adventures
Question This is something I fantasize about...if it's hurtful for my wife should I just do what I need to do w/o hurting her with the truth?
Answer Do you _have_ to do this? I appreciate the drive that is pushing you but you are on real dangerous ground.
You are just about guaranteed to hurt your wife if you cheat whether you tell her or not. Something almost always gives away a person who cheats on their mate even if the mate never says anything. And it will hurt her make no mistake about that.
Here is the only advice I can offer you. First, if you can, talk this out with her. Tell her what you are feeling, what you are wanting. This might work out a lot better than you imagine it would.
If you feel that is not possible, then all I can suggest is that you be as far away from home as possible. If you can go out-of-state then do that. If you can't do that at least go out-of-town. The farther you are from home the less chance there is of you being detected. Never ever do this in your own town or area, it's almost a guarantee of getting caught.
