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Adult Swinging/jealousy after first swing experience

Follow-Ups to Answer from Expert Anita Roberts

Thomas wrote at 2008-03-08 17:09:01
This is just my opinion, based on the limited information you have given. You did not explain how the rest of your relationship is. However, my guess is that your wife is no longer interested in you as a sexual partner. She is using you now for access to swinging activities, so she is still interested in sex. The "it hurts inside" sounds like BS, my ex wife pulled that while she was having outside affairs. Funny she does not hurt with hours of sex with someone else. My advice? Time to find a new mate. There are plenty of women out there looking for a relationship that will love sex with YOU, the swinging optional.

Houston Couple wrote at 2008-12-24 08:08:49
You mentioned your cycles were messed up. In my experience this is a lot of times due to chemical influence ( birth control, supplements, alcohol, ect ). Sometimes it can even be a reaction to certain foods. If you are on Birth Control, I would recommend getting off it. As for swinging, it can spice up your sex life. But both of you need to be open minded. Normally it starts with the girls getting on each other with soft swap. Then the eventually you both are comfortable enough for full swap. If you want a good site for lifestyle noobies desirousparty(dot)com.

mark franco wrote at 2012-04-02 19:13:39
No No No. You are over-thinking this issue. The answer is very simple: Novelty is the greatest aphrodisiac for women. The other couple was a new experience for her and that's why your wife was so turned on by having sex with them. With you, she is bored. She already knows every square inch of your body and mind. It doesn't matter if you're the greatest lover in the world. Women get bored of being with the same person. Sad but true. If you want to have great sex with women constantly, you have to find a new woman every six months to a year. That is it. Yes, it really is that simple. Don't try to psycho-analyze your wife or yourself. There is nothing you can do to change this. You are no longer new in her life, so therefore, you can't trigger the sexual response in her that only a new relationship can achieve. Again, trust me, it really is that simple. Sorry!