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Expert: Scotto Date: 10/8/2007 Subject: My husband's reaction
Question We recently went to a swinger club. We were in a room and into each other when a couple started to touch us, the female was caressing me and eventually nudged my husband away to give me oral. At that point another couple layed down next to us. The male part of that couple asked if it would be okay for me to give him oral, I looked to my husband for confirmation that it would be okay, it was okay. The female gave my husband oral, then when the male wanted to have sex, my husband, again, was okay with that. He was having a nervousness problem and couldn't keep it together (if you understand) he did touch this woman but then it was evident that it wasn't going anywhere, so, my husband and I (for lack of a better way to say it) finished up. My question is, although he says he is not jealous or doesn't think badly of me, but is extremely feaked out by the whole situation. I think because he feels like he put me in the position and is not sure that it was the right thing. He says that it was hot while it was going on but he's freaked out by it. He also thinks that we should have stuck with the first couple, while that would have been okay with me it didn't happen that way. Before we went we had a go with the flow rule, maybe that was a bad idea also, being that it was our first time swinging. Please, if you have any insite on my husband's reaction let me know. While I had a great time, it is not worth ruining our marriage. Thanks in advance.
Answer Annie, his reaction was very normal in that even when both partners are fully on board to swinging its bound to happen that the reality of it actually happening will shock one of the partners more than the other. He now has some anxieties of actually seeing you with other people sexually but also was very turned on by it and thus the internal conflict he had. As for his performance issues I wouldn't and he shouldn't give that another thought. Most guys have had some stagefright at some point in their life and its definitely not a typical situation for a first time swinger to find themselves in a room with 4 other nude people and seeing your spouse giving and receiving oral. If he said he had a good time and doesn't regret it then suggest another trip and my guess is he will perform just fine AND really enjoy watching your performance.
Let me know how it goes and how the subsequent swing party visit goes.
