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Adult Swinging/Questions Answered by Expert Michael Andrews
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Wife and Freind | 5/22/2012 |
| Q: I am Mark, 53 married for last 15 years, wife is 44. About 1 year back i was in accident which has ... A: What a difficult situation for you and I can understand your pain and concern. I don't think you ... | |
| horney boyfriend | 5/16/2012 |
| Q: hey, my boyfriend is bi and asked me to pick up anouthrr guy for me and him at first i said no, but ... A: I guess the bottom line in any relationship is to ask yourself, "Does being in this relationship ... | |
| swinging | 5/7/2012 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been talking a lot with each other about swinging. he had been to some ... A: Mia, I totally agree with you - swinging only really works to enhance an already great relationship ... | |
| My wife has changed after going to a swingers night | 4/23/2012 |
| Q: i greatly appreciate you giving up your time for me. I am working from home today and my wife is on ... A: I guess my real concern for you is where this open relationship might lead. Your concerns are real ... | |
| My wife has changed after going to a swingers night | 4/23/2012 |
| Q: Morning Michael, Thank you for your swift reply to my question regarding my wife, your thoughts ... A: I'm glad you've been able to address the situation with your wife and that you've been able to ... | |
| My wife has changed after going to a swingers night | 4/20/2012 |
| Q: Good afternoon Michael, My wife and i are both 28 and have been together 8 years and been married ... A: the attention from others seems to me to be the reason and, not wishing to put a judgement on your ... | |
| How do we get started in the lifestyle? | 4/11/2012 |
| Q: I've read some of your responses to questions, and I'd like to ask the following: 1) You suggest ... A: the best answer to both of your questions I can give you is - online. You could Google "swingers ... | |
| Newbie swinger issue | 4/6/2012 |
| Q: So, my girlfriend and I of almost three years had our first "soft swap" couple experience a few ... A: Glad it was of some help. I actually think you would get a lot from my book which goes into great ... | |
| Newbie swinger issue | 4/4/2012 |
| Q: So, my girlfriend and I of almost three years had our first "soft swap" couple experience a few ... A: Your feelings are totally understandable. A lot of things start to surface when a couple starts ... | |
| Confused | 3/29/2012 |
| Q: My husband for about 10 years and I have been in the swinging lifestyle for about a year in half. ... A: I'm very sorry for such a late response; this was in a separate folder and I overlooked it. You're ... | |
| Confused | 3/29/2012 |
| Q: My husband for about 10 years and I have been in the swinging lifestyle for about a year in half. ... A: You're welcome. You may well find that the 'real thing' is actually better than you imagined. It ... | |
| Confused | 3/27/2012 |
| Q: My husband for about 10 years and I have been in the swinging lifestyle for about a year in half. ... A: Your misgivings are perfectly natural and it's good you are willing to acknowledge them. I think the ... | |
| emotional connections and swinging | 3/26/2012 |
| Q: My husband and I have been in the swinging lifestyle for about 3 years. Last year he started talking ... A: I think you've hit it in one when you say "swinging is to enhance our relationship". Anything else ... | |
| what the meaning | 2/13/2012 |
| Q: When someone invites you to have coffee and what would be the correct response? A: If you would like to get to know them better, then saying something like, "Thank you, that would be ... | |
| First time now jealousy | 1/31/2012 |
| Q: Join nude club Oct 2011 this is first time for that and 1/28/2012 first time for this swinging ... A: The two of you need to have an honest discussion about why you both want to get involved in ... | |
| Nervousness | 1/30/2012 |
| Q: My wife has never swing before. I had with my ex-wife. My wife has finally agreed to trying out ... A: What you could do is focus on helping her feel more sexy. She probably has concerns about how she ... | |
| What should i do? | 1/29/2012 |
| Q: Im a female and this cashier who is also a female and she is married. well she keeps staring at me ... A: You need to make the decision - think it through and decide if you really want this person to be ... | |
| What should i do? | 1/29/2012 |
| Q: Im a female and this cashier who is also a female and she is married. well she keeps staring at me ... A: Do you want her to be your friend? Do you think she is someone who would make you feel good to be ... | |
| FFM threesome | 1/26/2012 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for over ten years and (I know this is difficult to believe) have ... A: sounds like you have a great relationship; however I think you have found the real cause of the ... | |
| Returning to normal self | 1/18/2012 |
| Q: I'll be short and concise, my only form of pleasure so far has been from porn, pics, etc. A year or ... A: Yes it's a good idea to stay away from those sites. You would be better to focus on developing the ... | |
| Intimacy - Is there a place for this with another women? | 1/2/2012 |
| Q: I am seeking some advise to deal with my hurt feelings. My partner and I have been to sex club a few ... A: There are several things going on here and feelings of jealousy can certainly arise. The issue is ... | |
| Can this be fixed? | 12/29/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. Very early on in the relationship, he brought ... A: It appears there are a couple of things going on here that are causing conflict between you. ... | |
| relationship bloomed | 12/17/2011 |
| Q: I had the chance to swing with a couple and have been with also been with just her. It started out ... A: This sounds a bit complicated and difficult and I'm not sure there is a simple solution. The way ... | |
| Taken the wrong decision? | 12/5/2011 |
| Q: I am a 24 year old male, 5'9", 200 lbs. My problem is somewhat of an embarrassing one which is why I ... A: A good idea to stay away. Even if it's not doing you any harm (which it may be), is it doing you any ... | |
| Taken the wrong decision? | 12/4/2011 |
| Q: I am a 24 year old male, 5'9", 200 lbs. My problem is somewhat of an embarrassing one which is why I ... A: To be honest I think you have nothing to worry about. I think you'll find that when you do meet ... | |
| Unhappy with our options.. | 11/30/2011 |
| Q: my husband and I have been together 8 years and in the lifestyle for 2. We have always stuck to our ... A: I don't think you should feel bad about questioning your ground rules. But I also think you need to ... | |
| mfm | 11/7/2011 |
| Q: My wife and I have been swinging for 8 years,by now nothing bothers us,we have no jealousy etc We ... A: Tricky situation. It certainly seems on the face of it that things have moved beyond the swinging ... | |
| guilt for cheating on husband | 10/23/2011 |
| Q: My story starts with my husband always asking me to flirt with other men. I am 50 years old and this ... A: How lucky you are that you could tell you husband everything..... you must have a great ... | |
| bad first experience | 9/9/2011 |
| Q: I was the one who went to my husband with my thoughts and fantasies of being with another women , of ... A: Swinging is a great way to deepen your connection and love with your spouse or partner - but if you ... | |
| Cheating | 8/14/2011 |
| Q: My wife and I have been in the swing lifestyle since January this year. We met a couple (I'll call ... A: a very tricky situation. I agree with you that he is definitely cheating. It really depends on your ... | |
| I like this guy. | 7/30/2011 |
| Q: During the January, i like this guy in my school, but all along i didn't approach him. And during ... A: You really have two choices - go after him or decide you will find someone else. If you do want to ... | |
| First time swinging | 7/21/2011 |
| Q: My wife (37) and I (47) have been married 14 years and been true and faithful to one another the ... A: I think you should have a thorough discussion with your wife and get the mindsets of both of you ... | |
| Curious and confused about swinging | 7/11/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for six years and he is the only person I have ever had sex ... A: what you're expressing is not all that uncommon so take heart! I think you will find that once ... | |
| Swinging with friends | 6/14/2011 |
| Q: We are going to Desire Resort for the first time with another couple whom we've known since college, ... A: I think you should talk to your wife along the lines of what to do if you are in a situation you are ... | |
| bf keeps questioning | 6/11/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 2years. We both have been talking about starting ... A: Very sorry for the delay in answering - computer problems! Many people, especially men, get a thrill ... | |
| no idea what i should do | 6/3/2011 |
| Q: I am hoping that you can help me with an issue i am facing. I (D) am 27 years old and so is my wife ... A: Hmmm... slightly tricky. You obviously made a simple mistake and it didn't go anywhere so that's ... | |
| Blindsided by a Threesome last night | 6/2/2011 |
| Q: My new fiance was a swinger with his exwife. I on the other hand, had plain ole vanilla sex. That ... A: sorry for the delay in getting back to you. I'm sorry to hear about such a bad experience for you ... | |
| curiosity on swingimg | 5/17/2011 |
| Q: I'm 60 years old , lots of energy and for the first time i was involved in fucking a lady with her ... A: There are lots of couples out there looking for single guys. The two main options are swingers clubs ... | |
| Gay relationship | 5/8/2011 |
| Q: my name is Aaron and im trying to find some advice other than that of my peers. Ive been in a ... A: It is never easy when someone doesn't return your affections when you care so much about them. You ... | |
| Swinging | 5/7/2011 |
| Q: I started dating a guy about 5 months ago. Last month I found out he and his ex wife began swinging ... A: people get into swinging for all sorts of reasons but from my experience the only ones for whom it ... | |
| im interested in it | 5/2/2011 |
| Q: can u submit my # to a swingers club or sites will some folks frome the longveiw, tyler texas areas ... A: Sorry, that's not the way swinging works...you will have to submit yourself and put up a profile. I ... | |
| honest to goodness | 4/28/2011 |
| Q: Three important keys to any relationship are communication, trust, honesty and the act of ... A: Brian, your relationship sounds very complex and with a lot of pain. My answer will be brief - what ... | |
| Umm jealous much? | 4/25/2011 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 11 years. we have had our ups and downs through the years where ... A: There is obviously a lot of confusion in your relationship so I applaud you for seeking advice. ... | |
| number of players: 2? | 4/3/2011 |
| Q: Let's start off with a little info. The husband and I have been together 11 years. We have three ... A: I think your husband's biggest fear is that swinging will be a threat to your relationship, and that ... | |
| Swinging Jealousy Jitters | 3/31/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 20 years, we found the lifestyle looking for strip clubs and ... A: There are two types of swinging. The first is where a couple explore new sexual situations as a way ... | |
| i'm jelous because of swinging and its hurting my relationship | 3/30/2011 |
| Q: I can't really explain my decision to start swinging with my partner. I guess I wanted him happy, I ... A: Can I be blunt - why are you staying in this relationship? If you are unhappy, you don't trust him ... | |
| Swinging Lifestyle | 3/24/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I are swingers we've had two couples that we've played with for several years. We ... A: I'd suggest that it sounds like the old monster 'jealousy' is rearing up in your husband and ... | |
| Playing alone | 3/21/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have both had our first "alone" experience. Mine didn't go well, the guy couldn't ... A: You sum up many of the issues swinger couples face such as the difficulty in finding a mutually ... | |
| cuckoldry (racial) | 2/28/2011 |
| Q: I am guessing by your profile content, that you are knowledgable and/or a proponent of swinging type ... A: Sounds like you are very confused, which is quite understandable. The bottom line is that you and ... | |
| MMF threesome | 2/24/2011 |
| Q: My wife and i have been pretending for years about having another male in bed with us-she gets so ... A: No don't set up any meetings or do anything at all deceptive - it will backfire bigtime. I've ... | |
| relationship problems! | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: Im a 20 year old girl and i suffer from a problem. ever since i started getting in relationships i ... A: Well to be honest it doesn't sound like a situation that will have an easy solution, but the longer ... | |
| get hurted in swinging | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: i like to swing since last 5 years and enjoy to see my wife with other man so once we went for tour ... A: You need to get you relationship back on track. You should work on restoring the trust and sexual ... | |
| get hurted in swinging | 2/20/2011 |
| Q: i like to swing since last 5 years and enjoy to see my wife with other man so once we went for tour ... A: Jealousy is the biggest enemy of swinging and has the potential to destroy your relationship. I see ... | |
| looking for single lady | 2/13/2011 |
| Q: where can i find a web site for single ladies who want to be with a married couple A: There are a number of swinger websites that include single women amongst their members. The largest, ... | |
| boyfriend keen, I'm unsure | 2/10/2011 |
| Q: I'm in a long distance relationship and have been for four years now. My partner is really keen to ... A: I think you both need to have a thorough talk about what involving other people in your sex life ... | |
| threesome gone wrong | 1/29/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 12 years. My husband and I had a 3some early in our marriage with a friend ... A: What I have found with couples who are in conflict over their sex life is that is comes down to one ... | |
Michael Andrews
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
Couples sexuality, swinging, relationships
Experience
Speaker, author, publisher and workshop presenter in the areas of couples relationships and sexuality. Author of "How To Turn Your Partner Into a Swinger" and "The Sexless Marriage Cure", both available from Amazon Kindle bookstore.
Publications
Author, "How To Turn Your Partner Into a Swinger", available at www.swingwithyourwife.com.
Consulting editor, "Real Intimacy: the 9 Habits of Great Relationships", available at http://www.amazon.com/Real-Intimacy-Habits-Relationships-ebook/dp/B005MNTE8O/ref=sr_1_sc_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1321502809&sr=1-1-spell
Free Report, "How to Reignite the Passion in Your Relationship" available from http://www.lovesexinstitute.com
Education/Credentials
MA (Hons), DipBus
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