About Jeff & Kris Booth Expertise Singles and swinging, how to get started, what to expect, dealing with jealousy, finding clubs, throwing parties.
Experience 7 years in swinging, involved with planning and presentations for several Lifestyles Conventions, author of Guide to Alternative Lifestyles, and in an article on sexuality.org, the author states we are reputed to hold the best swing parties on the West Coast.
Publications Loving Alternatives magazine, AVN Online magazine, editors of sexinreview.com, eroticguide.com, eroticuniversity.com, and we have been featured on Extra, Leeza, The X Show, Dr. Susan Block Show, KROQ Kevin and Bean show, Rouze.com, and Los Angeles magazine.
Expert: Jeff & Kris Booth Date: 7/12/2001 Subject: can I be an "interim" stud?
Question Hi Kris(and Jeff too). I sent this question to you because you are a White female(More for Kris I guess than Jeff), and I felt odd asking a male about this stuff. We are a MWC, she is 29, and I am 32. We are not swingers per se, but we have had a couple..."discrete, consensual adventures' for lack of a better word/phrase...in each case with my wife as the participant myself, as the voyeur so to speak.
Do some white women become addicted to black-sexxing? We have had 3-"adventures" since being married. Each time her stud was very very tall, and very very dark-skinned black...and also enormously hung.
I have been in the military, an all-boys highschool, and played sports etc...so I have seen enough naked guys to know that not all black-men are giants between the legs...ofcourse to be honest the 5-6 hugest men I have ever seen were all black lol.
Anyway...my wife obviously prefers black men(particularly jet black extremely tall/hung black men lol) senxually----well, thats not to say she is nuts over every black guy...but when she does have a crazy-craving the guys have always been very tall and black.
Is there a way for me to be ummmm...more black? in the bedroom---in the time between these adventures? Short of surgery I guess there's not much I can do about my 'size'(which is about average), ...but are there certain general-techniques or moves or something that black guys do to make white women(who are so inclined) crazy with desire?
I hate to use that word, "generalizations". I don't know if there is a reason she went Nuclear for her black studs...maybe there isn't . Some people just prefer green to red, or apples to oranges---no big deal. But if you can think of anything that might make me more "interracial" for her in the bedroom between these adventures...I would love to give it a try. To be honest I don't know if the "adventures" will ever happen again anyway.
Like I said we are not swingers...there have just been a few episodes when her mood, the timing, my mood, the other man, the setting evrything was just perfect...and I consented I guess to some crazy-stuff. We never had any planned man-hunting trips, or planned dates etc...or even went somewhere thinking it might happen----thats why I say we aren't swingers, per se. Thanks for reading.
Answer I've been with a number of black men, and while the erotic appeal of the difference in skin color against my very white skin was erotic, I don't know that there was anything particularly different in their lovemaking skills. I suspect it has more to do with the excitement of something different. Of course, big, tall, and very dark can certainly play into fantasies about being overpowered by a dark powerful stranger, which may be a part of the scenario here. This allows that fantasy to be played out in a safe way. I suspect that she may not be looking at home for what she has gotten when she went out. You generally don't want to eat at the exotic restaurant every day, but it is fun once in awhile.
