About Jeff & Kris Booth Expertise Singles and swinging, how to get started, what to expect, dealing with jealousy, finding clubs, throwing parties.
Experience 7 years in swinging, involved with planning and presentations for several Lifestyles Conventions, author of Guide to Alternative Lifestyles, and in an article on sexuality.org, the author states we are reputed to hold the best swing parties on the West Coast.
Publications Loving Alternatives magazine, AVN Online magazine, editors of sexinreview.com, eroticguide.com, eroticuniversity.com, and we have been featured on Extra, Leeza, The X Show, Dr. Susan Block Show, KROQ Kevin and Bean show, Rouze.com, and Los Angeles magazine.
Expert: Jeff & Kris Booth Date: 8/20/2001 Subject: Should I start Officially?
Question I hope this doesn't get to graphic, but I need to talk to someone. Since you are a swinger I thought I could ask you.
My boyfriend of 3 years wants to start swinging "officially" whatever that means. I told him we should discuss it before he brings anybody home to try it out. One day he shows up with another couple. I pulled him aside and told him why he put me on the spot. he just shrugged it off and said I would like it.
He pulled aside the other mans wife and began taking off her clothes and giving her oral sex. She did vice versa, I started to get mad, but I went along with it. Me and the other guy got into it and before long I was liking it. Then the two men wanted us women to put on a show for them. I don't like that kind of thing, but I did it for my boyfriend. After she gave me oral sex i wanted to stop but my husband made me give her oral sex while he was giving it to me from behind. I was at my boiling point but it felt kida good. After trying various positions with the other couple I wanted to stop. So they left and me and my boyfriend got into it. That night I left him. Should I give him what he wants or should I stay gone for good. He gives good sex but I don't want to live that life style.
Answer Well, I think that any relationship where you are uncertain if he is your husband or boyfriend is probably on shaky ground as it is.
We don't give advice on whether people should stay together, but in terms of swinging, it must be with mutual consent. No one should ever be pressured into it. You must always have the right to refuse to do anything you don't want to do. The situation as described would break most of the most important rules in swinging and would be considered unacceptable to experienced swingers.
The technical term for anyone who would put their partner in the situtation described would be "major asshole".
