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Question Hi
my partener and i have been married for about 8 years and we have always had a fantasy of having a threesom, that is to have another male join us and to have both men pleasuring me.
recently we talked about the subject with a male friend of ours and he says he is happy to join us.
we have set the rules that we are a couple and that is how we start and finish, and he understands this.
we both know that this is our ultimate fantasy and that there will be no jealousy involved and we are all very keen and exhited to go ahead.
should we?
will we regret it for the rest of our lives if we dont?
will we regret it if we do?
regards
belinda
Answer It is always possible to regret something, but people who live their lives without regrets are people who never really live their lives.
Sure, it could turn out to be a horrible experience. If so, you don't have to do it again. Or, you may learn what not to do for the next time.
As long as you have discussed it in detail ahead of time and you both have good communication skills and know how to ask for what you need, then you should be fine. There are actually biochemical reasons why men enjoy seeing their partner with another man, which can make them even hornier. Often times this added energy is channeled into violent energy, but it is much better if it is allowed to follow its natural course of increased arousal.
One thing that has surprised people is when they did not make it clear enough up front that this is strictly a heterosexual encounter. There have been occasions where signals got mixed, and sometimes the male partner goes along with it and freaks out the woman. The same thing can happen in a WWM threesome, but people generally have less of a problem with two women together.
That's another consideration. While you get two guys, what happens if he decides it would be fun to have two girls? Could you handle that? Sometimes guys have an agenda that the first threesome is a negotiating point for a future threesome that revolves around them.
Of course, we like threesomes. They have an interesting power and energy, and being pleasured by two people can be a pretty amazing experience. You do want to make sure that you pay plenty of attention to your primary partner, even if there is a new toy to play with.
Our advice is that it sounds like fun. Go in with your eyes open and have a great time.
