Expert: Anita Roberts Date: 8/18/2006 Subject: trying it out
Question thats just the thing though, the only thing i know about swinging is that its about being open in your sexuality and sharing your wife and seeing her being pleasured, anyway the thing is i really dont know exactly what goes on in a party, and i have never been to one.
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hey im joey, im married and have a daughter. I have thought about swinging ever since i had my first girlfriend, i want to get my wife interested in swinging but dont know how to tell her, i have asked her how she feels if i had sex with her and another woman and she has said that she gets turned on from watching, she does watch porn with me, and she enjoys it, the only problem is she is not open in her sexuality, meaning she doesnt get loose in bed so i think that she would be uptight with swiging, how do you suggest i bring it up to her, whether this is just a fantasy or something i want is unclear but, my question is how should i bring this up in our conversations?
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The only way it will ever come about is if you talk to her about it. She has to know how you feel, perhaps then she will open up a little herself.
As for her not being loose in bed, there are two of you there. Make suggestions about what you want. If there is something in the porn you watch that looks like fun, suggest to her that you try it.
You might want to talk to her about how swinging works and what happens at a pary. Don't try to 'sell' it just let her know what goes on.
Anita
Answer In many ways a swing party is just like any other. The guests arrive and meet each others, new people are introduced and so on. Not usually much different there.
The fun starts when the party gets to the object of the meeting. There are various things that can happen; the host may start a game that ends with everyone taking off their clothes or everyone is asked to take them off or some brave soul strips.
Choosing a partner is like asking someone to dance. A request such as "Would you like to play?" is usually enough of an invitation. Of course, no means no and you move to someone else. Are people's feelings ever hurt, are they ever frustrated? The answer is yes, but if you are clean and polite you can almost always get action.
You mentioned that the purpose for you was your wife being pleasured. That is true but you will be expected to participate as well. It is not just for women and if the men don't participate then no one gets a partner.
