About Mellisa Expertise I can try to answer all questions about the swinging scene. Bi, straight, single men, marrid men, couples, clubs, parties and swinging etiquette. I also have many friends in the scene who would be able to help me with questions I do not know the answers to.
Experience I have been a swingers for ten years with my husband. We have arranged social and swinging meets and I also help run a swingers website and chat room. I have also attended clubs and parties.
Expert: Mellisa Date: 6/11/2006 Subject: is this for us?
Question hi my husband and i have discussed this subject.i really would like to have sex with a woman, and he seems to be all for it.my question is how do you know if this is something you as a couple can do without any problems after?i dont want him to sleep with her only me, but is this fair to him?also, how do you go about finding a person to ask to have sex with you?we are really private people, so we dont want everyone to know our buisness.but i hope i made sense to you with my questions, im really not stupid, just lost and confused.
thanks for your time
shawna
Answer Hi there Shawna. We all have to start somewhere and no its not easy. Finding a single woman is one of the hardest things to do in the swinging scene. To tell you the truth i don't think you really know what you want until you have tried and this is ok, it can even be fun finding out. Always discuss everything with you husband and set a few rules before you start. You can always change rules later.
I think the best thing to do would to be to join a swinging website ( community ) and get involved. You don't have to give away lots of personal details but you do have to be prepared to prove that you are genuine. You may find social meets or "munchies" are a good start, there you can meet like minded people without the pressures of having sex or making on the spot decisions. Another way of doing is is to go along to a swinging club, you DO NOT have to have sex in these places and can relax with your partner, meet people, have a drink and make a nice night of it. If you meet a couple or lady you like then thats a bonus. Do not let anyone coerce you into any situation you don't like and most importantly, enjoy !
Some people have issues with going to swingers clubs incase they meet someone they know, but if that someone is at a swinging club they are there for the same reasons you are.
If this does not help please feel free to ask again
Regards
Mellisa
