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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| take him back? | 2/7/2012 | The Man of Steel |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for one year . he's handsome and knows how to make a girl feel special ... A: It sounds like it's possible this relationship could end up working. If this man does have a ... | ||
| take him back? | 2/5/2012 | The Man of Steel |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for one year . he's handsome and knows how to make a girl feel special ... A: I am extremely inclined to tell you exactly how your situation is. From the outside looking in, it ... | ||
| Trust and Integrity | 2/2/2012 | The Man of Steel |
| Q: I met a man 2 years ago and fell deeply in love with him. After several warning signs, I explored ... A: Your doubt is reasonable and justified. Logically the decision would be to run. My position to ... | ||
| Trust and Integrity | 2/1/2012 | The Man of Steel |
| Q: I met a man 2 years ago and fell deeply in love with him. After several warning signs, I explored ... A: It is in fact possible for a man to change. One of the things that can change him is age itself. ... | ||
| suspect wife cheated | 1/22/2012 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I am concerned that my wife may have had sex with another man. Let me start by saying that after our ... A: You said that you want to work things out and you are looking for opinions on what to do. So, in ... | ||
| My husband had an affair | 1/11/2012 | The Man of Steel |
| Q: My husband had an affair with the neighbor about 7 months ago and it lasted for 3 months. I found ... A: If this situation were handled the right way, you would move away from your neighbor and never have ... | ||
| i chose my marriage but can't get over my love | 1/7/2012 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I've been married for 12 years- most of which were very unhappy- and have two children whom i adore. ... A: You still love your ex because you keep him alive in your mind and heart every day. Where your mind ... | ||
| HOW TO PICK ? | 1/3/2012 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I left my husband of 22 years for my lover of one and half years I have lived with him on and off ... A: I think before you can choose, you need to know what you value, who you are (roles) and what you ... | ||
| How do I choose? | 12/29/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I have been married for 2 years to a wonderful man and father. We have been together for 8 years ... A: There is no way anyone can answer this question for you. It really depends on what you value, what ... | ||
| marriage/sociopath? | 12/25/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: Laura, I've been married for 26 years. I found out about 6 years ago my husband had asked me if we ... A: My advice is to leave town. Go to a shelter in a town with no connection to you, your husband, or ... | ||
| child of adulterous dad | 12/25/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I'm a 16 year old girl. i accidentally found out that my dad has been cheating on my mom. No one in ... A: Your dad has already disrespected every one of you. Keeping secrets out of loyalty to someone who ... | ||
| not sure what to do | 12/22/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: My wife went on a trip the end of november. While she was gone I needed some personal information, ... A: I am not sure if I understand what happened. I also am not sure what you are asking me. Can you send ... | ||
| wife's online emotional affair | 12/21/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: My wife appearantly has formed a very close relationshiop with a man online (an old high school ... A: I can understand why you'd have mixed feelings about this, but how does honesty hurt? If she is ... | ||
| Depressed. | 12/9/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I have been with my fiancee for over a year now and we are recently engaged. I found a message on ... A: Q: How do I put this behind me? A: I answered this in the previous email. Q: I hate all of those ... | ||
| Depressed. | 12/8/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I have been with my fiancee for over a year now and we are recently engaged. I found a message on ... A: You did not "forgive" him. Forgiveness doesn't happen in a word. It happens in the heart. You are ... | ||
| My husbands emotional affair... will I ever get over it. | 12/5/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 12 years. We were in the process of adopting. One day I was ... A: It appears that your counseling has been ineffective. Whatever you were doing to "get over it" was ... | ||
| possible adultrery and advice on handling the situation | 11/29/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I recently went out of town for 4 days. When I returned home, I discovered my husband had been ... A: Your husband and you have very different ideas of what it means to show love, trust and commitment. ... | ||
| What is happening to me? | 11/21/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I am the one who consulted you about the "unfaithful flight attendant" over a year ago. Just days ... A: My suggestion is that you find a counselor to help you. Figure out what it is you want out of this ... | ||
| What is happening to me? | 11/21/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I am the one who consulted you about the "unfaithful flight attendant" over a year ago. Just days ... A: When an affair is followed by a commitment to reconciliation, intimacy, honesty, truth, and real ... | ||
| Husband With Other Woman Now | 11/16/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: "Hello, I have been on here before and left a question about 6 months ago. Well now I am back with ... A: I think it's too soon to know what his change of behavior means. People like it when things are ... | ||
| please help me i dont want to lose my family | 11/15/2011 | Dr. Mabel Swaby |
| Q: i have been with my beautiful girl friend for 3 years and we have both done stuff that we shouldn't ... A: however; you have not answered them all which make it difficult to respond. The major question was ... | ||
| separation then reunited but still nothing | 11/12/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: my husband and i have both been in trouble with affairs..mine was not a relationship like his ... A: It's been a month. That's not a lot of time to get things back on track. I realize you are ... | ||
| please help me i dont want to lose my family | 11/11/2011 | Dr. Mabel Swaby |
| Q: i have been with my beautiful girl friend for 3 years and we have both done stuff that we shouldn't ... A: I am sorry that you having this problem. I believe I need more information in order to respond to ... | ||
| Serial Cheater | 11/4/2011 | Dr. Mabel Swaby |
| Q: I have been married for the past 18 years to my husband. We have two children who are 11 and 15 ... A: I am sorry you are going through this, but thank you for writing. It seems like you have been going ... | ||
| trying to keep a marriage covenant | 10/31/2011 | Dr. Mabel Swaby |
| Q: Mabel My husband and I have been down a very rocky road for a long time. He has been involved with ... A: Jackie your marriage covenant was broken when you both went outside of your marriage and involved ... | ||
| Help me | 10/28/2011 | Dr. Mabel Swaby |
| Q: I am involved with a man that is married. He lied when I met him and said he wasn't. After I fell ... A: I am a Christian and I am trusting God,I am doing fine. I did not loose my daughter, I know where ... | ||
| I'm lost | 10/21/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: Giles, I am in a horrible situation. I met a man 15 months ago and fell in love. I am a divorced ... A: I cannot diagnose a person based on hearsay. "Sociopath" is a very serious label. If he IS a ... | ||
| I'm lost | 10/20/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: Giles, I am in a horrible situation. I met a man 15 months ago and fell in love. I am a divorced ... A: If this man is truly the sociopath that you think he is, he is getting off on fooling you. The more ... | ||
| I'm lost | 10/20/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: Giles, I am in a horrible situation. I met a man 15 months ago and fell in love. I am a divorced ... A: Your question is, "Can I ever trust this man?" Really? He has a history of deceiving you, his wife, ... | ||
| I need help please | 10/11/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I want to give some background, that I believe will make it easier to understand my dilemma.... My ... A: You are still dealing with this 7 years later because you didn't deal with it the first time. You ... | ||
| Adultery | 10/4/2011 | Dr. Mabel Swaby |
| Q: Last night I was laying on the bed and my wife was standing, I asked her out of the blue when she ... A: I have a few questions in order to respond to you with helpful information. I know this situation is ... | ||
| IS THERE STILL HOPE | 9/24/2011 | Dr. Mabel Swaby |
| Q: i have been married since 2004 to a wonderful wife. i love God and i ve been saved since 2001. i ... A: "Yes there is hope" Our Heavenly Father is always ready to forgive when we ask. He proved that to ... | ||
| Dealing with a crush when you're married | 9/24/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: My husband of 5 years and I have been going through a rough patch in our marriage for quite a while. ... A: It's insightful of you to see what is going on as it's happening. Most people wait until disaster ... | ||
| Cheating on Deployment | 9/21/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I am a soldier in the Army. I have been in for about 2 years now, and it has not been the best on my ... A: I hate to break it to you, but cheating in the military is rampant. It's not because military ... | ||
| CAN GOD STILL USE ME | 9/20/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: i have been married since 2004 to a wonderful wife. i love God and i ve been saved since 2001. i ... A: God doesn't call perfect people to minister for him. He calls humans. Human beings are flawed ... | ||
| My step dad it is cheating on my mom. | 9/14/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: My mom and stepdad has been together since I was 3, I am now 19. My mom went on a trip a month ago ... A: First of all, your parent's business is their business. It's not your place to get involved. That ... | ||
| Adultery Parent | 9/11/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I grew up from young with a serial cheater for a father. He started his flings when I was 7 years ... A: You are not going to like my answer, but here it is. Don't borrow trouble. The questions that you ... | ||
| Emotional affair on husband | 9/6/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I have this dilemma that I have been going through for almost three years. I have been sort of ... A: YES, You keep ignoring him until he goes away! It will probably escalate before it dies down, but he ... | ||
| How do I repent? | 8/23/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I cheated on my husband. We have a 10 year marriage, 2 years courtship before that. we have two kids ... A: You just have to be patient. What he is going through is normal for the situation. if you are ... | ||
| How do I repent? | 8/18/2011 | Laura Giles |
| Q: I cheated on my husband. We have a 10 year marriage, 2 years courtship before that. we have two kids ... A: If what you say is true, you are doing all you can. It will just take time to heal what was broken. ... | ||
Adultery
Answers by Expert:
Laura Giles
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
Marital, relationship, adultery, children out of wedlock, divorce, custody, visitation, support, co-parenting, mediation, counseling, group counseling, step-parenting, pre-marital, and reconciling issues
Experience
I teach parent education classes and a group for people who are trying to strengthen their relationships in addition to providing individual counseling. I am the author of "The Other Child: Children of Affairs."
Organizations
National Registry of Who's Who in Executive Professionals
National Guild of Hypnotists
National Association of Social Workers
Honorary chairman of the Business Advisory Council
Virginia Mediation Network
Publications
The Other Child: Children of Affairs, The Daily Herald (Chicago), New You, The Journal Gazette, Almeda Times-Star, Tacoma News Tribune, East West Woman. Tidewater Women, Dimensions
Education/Credentials
BS in Human Services Counseling- Old Dominion University
Master of Social Work- Norfolk State University
Licensed clinical social worker
Awards and Honors
National Registry of Who's Who in Executive Professionals
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