AboutThe Man of Steel Expertise I can answer questions about how to handle your position with a cheating spouse or one that has cheated recently. How to straighten up your life and get back on track one way or the other. My answers will include God because He fills the most vital part in your recovery. They will also include help with the decisions you will have to make to clean things up.
Experience Was cheated on several times by the same woman. We were able to save and keep our marriage, and we will never have this problem again as long as we live.
Publications Purchase my book at www.youngadventure.com and reading this alone will be a major relief to your aching mind.
Education/Credentials Five years of college, 20 years of working in every hands-on field you can imagine, and several technical fields.
Awards and Honors 8 semesters on the president's list in college, 10 arm wrestling championships, many local records in cross country running.
Question I recently found out my husband of 18 years has two kids by a woman ages 6 and 4 months. I dont want to leave him or divorce him, he says he loves me and it was just sex with this woman. There is a 5 year gap between the kids because they had ended their first affair because she wouldnt abort the first child, they later started up again and when she got pregnant once again and wouldnt abort this child they split again. do you think I will ever get over this affair with children involved and if so what can I do to get my marriage back on track
Answer Dear Tee,
I'm afraid you have asked this question of a religious man who believes killing unborn children is murder.
You are painting me a picture of a man who cheats, then demands the adulterous woman kill her fetus, then abandons her when she won't.
I hate to disappoint people, but I can only call things honestly the way I see them.
As far as getting your marriage back on track, if you choose to keep this man and your marriage, the responsibility is all on him to make things right after cheating on you. If you have children, I would recommend giving him a chance to do that. If you have no children, I think I would leave him to find out how badly he really wants to repair things. From your end, there isn't much you can do except demand he make it right.
If you leave, you will find out soon how much he really loves you. He will either begin to relish his freedom, or he will hurt more and more each day until he finally gets you back. If you leave and he begins to do whatever he can to get you to return, then you can lay down your conditions for continuing the marriage, and by the time you get back together, your relationship should be improved.
If you think you should simply stay and work it out together, then he needs to understand it's all his responsibility to make things right, since he is the one who cheated while you remained faithful.
I wish I could help more. I wish you all the best and hope all goes as well as possible. You are welcome to give more detail and ask anything, any time. Best of luck to you,
