AboutPastor Kimberly Lemler Expertise As an Ordained Minister, Life Coach, and Pastoral Counselor, I can help you with questions related to adultery. I was a victim of adultery in my first marriage so I understand deeply the feelings that one has in this situation. How we choose to respond to the situation is vital in our recovery. Letting go of bitterness and unforgiveness is key, and I can teach you how to do that. I have been happily remarried for 16 years.
Outside of AllExperts I can be reached at:
Walk By Faith Counseling Center
www.GodsHealingPower.org
Experience I have personal experience with a husband who committed adultery and have counseled people in this area. I have a weekly radio broadcast and also do street ministry, phone ministry,in-office ministry, e-mail ministry and have ministered on a worldwide prayerline. I am a life coach as well.
Publications Teaching CD's available on our website, GodsHealingPower.org. Look for several of our books to be published and on the website.
Education/Credentials I am a former school teacher, a graduate of Indiana University, 1984. I have received biblical instruction at Victory Bible Institute and am currently working on a PhD.
Question QUESTION: How common is it for adulterer's to justify their relationship? How do they make it right with God? Can they Marry if they repent?
ANSWER: Hi Jon,
It is very common. Mostly all adulterers deny it or justify it. Taking personal responsibility is rare. Anyone can make their past right with God if they have accepted Jesus as their Saviour.
Ephesians 1:7 "In whom we continue to have redemption through His blood, the cancellation of sins according to the wealth of His grace."
Since we are under the blanket of God's grace, mercy, and forgiveness, when we repent and ask Him to forgive us, the slate is wiped clean. It's as if we never sinned. So an adulterer can remarry.
Blessings,
Pastor Kim
GodsHealingPower.org
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QUESTION: Your answer does make sense except it doesn't seem like repentance if God is ok with the two people in an adulterous relationship marry each other.. I am not sure I was clear with my original question? Adultery is a positive thing?
Answer Hi Jon,
I answered your original questions as I read them. Now you are asking if adultery is okay? The answer to that is no, adultery is not sanctioned by God.
But you asked me if someone who is an adulterer can make it right with God, meaning if they can become in right standing with Him. The answer to that is yes. Any sin, if we repent from the heart, can be forgiven. It doesn't matter what it is. The Apostle Paul was a murderer of Christians and he was transformed by God, forgiven, and went on to write the majority of the NT. God uses imperfect people to accomplish His will.
Two people who marry after adultery can be forgiven by God IF they are truly sorry for their actions. There may a lot of repurcussions from their actions, however, that they will have to deal with. Sin always has consequences.
