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Expert: S. Kessler Date: 4/21/2008 Subject: alienation of affection
Question I got drunk and had a one night stand early on in the beginning of our marriage. I told my husband (he acted very hurt by it)but he chose to stay and forgive me. That was 23 yrs ago. Now my husband has recently confessed to 23 yrs of adulterous affairs via e-mail and is now in a relationship with someone he wants to divorce me for. He blamed the affairs on my one night stand and wrote in an e-mail to me "payback is a bitch". I would like to know can I sue him and or his mistress for this? I am devastated as are our three kids. He was always very kind to my face during the marriage but since this new affair he has treated me callously.
Answer Hi Glenda~
All you'd have to do is sue him in civil court for Alienation of Affection. There's only a slim chance that you'll win a case of this nature. However, it's not necessarily about the money, rather the principle of the matter, to show you that he can't do this to you and push you around. That's very awful and terrible that he'd do such a thing after you'd confess something of this nature to him. Talk about a betrayal of trust in a marriage, not to mention how he totally disrespected you all this time too. So you'd have a 50-50 chance of winning, and even if you don't, this will show him that you're not going to stand for this type of treatment and you won't tolerate his nonsense anymore. Stand up for yourself and don't let him do this to you one moment longer. One day he'll get all that's coming to him, and he will be held accountable for all the wrong he's done to you. You must now begin to move forward from all this and move on with your life w/o him in it. He doesn't deserve you one iota.
