About David Rhodes Expertise Questions related to adultery, abuse, broken relationships. Counselor since 1991 and I have seen and heard just about every story ever told about adultery. First, there is no such thing as just an "emotional affair". "Forsake all others" should mean something. Secondly, the rebuilding a marriage marred by adultery can be stronger, more loving, and fulfilling than you ever imagined. Happiness and peace can be yours once again.
Experience Counselor since 1991 specializing in marital.
Organizations American Psychological Association
National Christian Counselors Association
Education/Credentials Bachelors - Ashland University, Ashland, Ohio
MBA - Case Western Reserve University, Cleveland, Ohio
PhD - Freedom Bible College, Rogers, Arkansas (under study)
Past/Present Clients Volunteer in "Marriage" category
Expert: David Rhodes Date: 4/23/2008 Subject: im think im going crazy over being cheated on and staying with her
Question everyday events remind me of it. When she cheated that is. My girlfriend cheated on me and I've decided to work it out, forgive and forget you know? I've tried to forgive, but it feels i cannot forgive unless I've forgotten. But it feels like I'm going crazy because of this girl who supposedly loves me. I love her with all my heart, but i always think she is doing something behind my back. I check her myspace and her phone constantly. Everything just seems so secretive. I've had panic attacks and its starting to affect my dreams and work. Should i really still be with her if i am this mentally unstable? do i need some kind of psychological help.
Answer Billy - there are two things that will help you get past this.
1. She must apologize and show complete contrition to you. And she must share with you anything you want to know.
2. You have to let her do so. And give it time to heal.
There really are no shortcuts. Time will be a powerful healer for you so your patience is going to determine how well you heal.
