AboutPastor Kimberly Lemler Expertise As an Ordained Minister, Life Coach, and Pastoral Counselor, I can help you with questions related to adultery. I was a victim of adultery in my first marriage so I understand deeply the feelings that one has in this situation. How we choose to respond to the situation is vital in our recovery. Letting go of bitterness and unforgiveness is key, and I can teach you how to do that. I have been happily remarried for 16 years.
Outside of AllExperts I can be reached at:
Walk By Faith Counseling Center
www.GodsHealingPower.org
Experience I have personal experience with a husband who committed adultery and have counseled people in this area. I have a weekly radio broadcast and also do street ministry, phone ministry,in-office ministry, e-mail ministry and have ministered on a worldwide prayerline. I am a life coach as well.
Publications Teaching CD's available on our website, GodsHealingPower.org. Look for several of our books to be published and on the website.
Education/Credentials I am a former school teacher, a graduate of Indiana University, 1984. I have received biblical instruction at Victory Bible Institute and am currently working on a PhD.
Question Hi Pastor, 8 plus years ago I committed adultery and 16 months back I confessed my sins to my wife, We are still together and are struggling with Michele trying to keep this in a truth of what it was situation.I have confessed my sins and have tried to describe what it was to the best of my ability. With our age and children 2,8,13,22 we have tried to keep our marriage together. Michele has show grace and some forgiveness but the terror of her anger is very real and NACC counseling was very hard on her. Often she says that she wants to divorce,seperate,leave,chastise me with her words, I just want to love her and be a Christ-Like husband to her.I have read countless books and have tried to be everything God wants me to be as a Godly husband, I am fearful she is pulling away from God and the church and allowing the devil a place in her heart. Thank you for taking the time to read this, I will keep praying in times of trouble as in the book of James. Blessings Tom
Answer Hi Tom,
Adultery is devastating to a wife. You have no idea how this hurts. It hurt me so much that I got sick and had a life threatening illness for many years. It is a trauma to every part of us. So understand that this is a very heavy burden for your wife...
She is responsible, however, for how she responds to this. God does give her an out and says it's okay to divorce you. If she stays or if she goes, she STILL needs to root out the bitterness that has taken root inside of her and she has to daily battle the demonic forces that are coming against her. She has to do her part in this...she has to stand strong against the wiles of the devil...
You need to pray for her and YOU need to start battling satan on her behalf right now. Are you familiar with spiritual warfare? The Bible has a lot to say on this...
Get the book called A Man of Your Dreams The Woman of His. The Pastor committed adultery and they have a wonderful marriage today. I think this book will help you and you can also counsel with them. Go to GodSaveMyMarriage.com .
I am doing a series on bitterness and unforgiveness on my radio show. We will have it available on our website in a few weeks, after the series is over. I would suggest this because I talk about how to fight against the forces that come against us and how to root out that bitterness, forgive, and move on...
Pastor Kim
God's Healing Power Radio Ministry
GodsHealingPower.org
