AboutS. Kessler Expertise I can answer most any question about Adultery. I have experience in dealing with what to expect, how it makes you feel when you find out, etc. My first marriage ended after my "ex" cheated on me. I know how it feels to be cheated on and what you experience while going through adultery. I will answer any of your questions on Adultery to the best of my ability. I have extensive knowledge on this subject. How it not only effect you but your whole family (including the children). I can give you answers on how to deal with it, some of the signs a mate may be cheating, etc. All questions about adultery are welcome.
Expert: S. Kessler Date: 5/17/2008 Subject: Phone call
Question Today I got a call that my husband is cheating again. This is the 3rd time How
do I focus? After trying to talk to him. Tonight he called me a Cunt... He
signed a post nuptial yrs ago, now he claims he's going to have me committed.
Telling me I'm insane.
Answer Hi Jill~
What a pompous, arrogant ass he's being to you! First of all he can't have you committed. That's funny he'd even tell you something so ridiculous and ignorant. You should just laugh at him for making a stupid comment like that. Anyway, he's insulting your intelligence by treating you this way. It's highly unlikely that he's going to change his cheating ways either. It's not like this was the first time and he made a mistake and won't do it again. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. So he's not going to stop being unfaithful anytime soon.
He has done nothing for you besides to degrade, cut you down, call you names and totally disrespect you. You can't keep putting up with this treatment, you don't deserve it at all. He can't make you feel inferior w/o your permission. You have to take that power away from him and stop letting him abuse you with words and actions. So while you can't control the way he acts, you do control the way you react to him (and others). You have a choice here to make. You either choose to stay with him and endure this treatment forever. Or you decide that you're not going to be treated this way one moment longer.
See a person can only take so much of something before they break. The question to ask yourself is when is your breaking point? How much longer are you willing to put up with this before you finally say, NO MORE?! It all starts with you. There has to come a point where you get tired of being treated like a doormat. He's the one that made the poor choices to sleep with other women, not you. He's taking all of this out on you, and that's just unacceptable and not right. You have to do something about this and stop tolerating his bad behavior and disrespect of you. You really must get out now before he gets worse, he could turn physical one day taking out all his anger, etc on you. Protect yourself at all costs, get out now while you can.
