AboutLaura Giles Expertise Marital, relationship, adultery, children out of wedlock, divorce, custody, visitation, support, co-parenting, mediation, counseling, group counseling, step-parenting, pre-marital, and reconciling issues
Experience I teach parent education classes and a group for people who are trying to strengthen their relationships in addition to providing individual counseling. I am the author of the upcoming book "The Other Child: Children of Affairs."
Organizations International Association for Regression Research and Therapies Inc
National Association of Social Workers
C. Jung Society of Tidewater
Publications The Other Child: Children of Affairs
Education/Credentials BS in Human Services Counseling- Old Dominion University
Master of Social Work- Norfolk State University
Awards and Honors National Registry of Who's Who in Executive Professionals
Expert: Laura Giles Date: 5/16/2008 Subject: What can I do if I found out my husband is cheating?
Question We've been maried 6 years. I am pregnant and on on maternity leave. my husband pays all the bills. He is very responsible and spends his free time at home (watching tv) and w/ friends doing sports on the weekend. We never go out or do anything together, so I go out with friend and family or alone, Since I've been pregnant my husband does not want to have sex with me, but worst he ignores me, barely talks to me.( i keep good appearance, while pregnant) Shows little interest in pregnancy and baby. Says he is tired and stressed out. Today I went through his wallet (had not done it in years) and found 2 phone numbers, i google them and came up naked pics,names for escorts, with local addresses. I asked him about it and he said they were for a friend. And that I shouldn't have gone through his stuff. The sad thing is he has done this sort of thing before (looking for local wome over the internet) but I have believed his excuses. Now I now it's time to wake up..because he is giving me almost the same lines as before. I cannot even cry anymore about him. I pity him. and I pity myself for not seen this sooner. I need to get out of this. But I don't know if I should wait or do it now. I don't want to leave I want him to leave. But right now I need the financial support. In my state i cannot get divorced while pregnant, but I really want him out.
Answer Hi Maria,
If you have made your decision, there is no reason to wait. I would consult an attorney about getting a separation and maintenance agreement. Your husband may be legally responsible for supporting you - at least temporarily- but will definitely be responsible for supporting his child. So you have options.
Se an attorney and find out exactly what they are in your state. You may be in a lot better position than you think.
