About David Rhodes Expertise Questions related to adultery, abuse, broken relationships. Counselor since 1991 and I have seen and heard just about every story ever told about adultery. First, there is no such thing as just an "emotional affair". "Forsake all others" should mean something. Secondly, the rebuilding a marriage marred by adultery can be stronger, more loving, and fulfilling than you ever imagined. Happiness and peace can be yours once again.
Experience Counselor since 1991 specializing in marital.
Organizations American Psychological Association
National Christian Counselors Association
Education/Credentials Bachelors - Ashland University, Ashland, Ohio
MBA - Case Western Reserve University, Cleveland, Ohio
PhD - Freedom Bible College, Rogers, Arkansas (under study)
Past/Present Clients Volunteer in "Marriage" category
Expert: David Rhodes Date: 5/13/2008 Subject: my friend's extramarital affair
Question hi David.my friend the police officer visited me today.I have known him since 1974.he had this crush on a girl while we worked at burger king in 1976.we are both 50 years old.in 1978 she left for colorado.He always had a crush but he partially demonstrated his love to her by going to her graduation and once went out on a date and he gave her a minor kiss on the lips but it did not go anywhere and she left.the other day he located her on a classmates website and left her a message.she returned it and they began e-mailing.she got divorced but he is "happily" married with a child who is 10.I know this girl from those burger king days.after e-mailing alot she flew in today from colorado and they met at a hotel and had a rendevous for 3 days(he was in and out).she complains that after 30 years of marriage the husband never really made passionate love to her.anyway i am worried for my friend becuase she plans on coming down this july and have another quickie weekender fling. my friend says he will not divorce his wife he still loves her.What is your professional opinion of this?I feel bad for him because i feel he is getting into a tremendous mess which he will not be able to get out off.thanks.
Answer Peter - the one thing that you can share with him is that the path he is on will positively lead to heartache and pain like he has never known. I have seen it hundreds of times.
It may feel exhilirating at the time but there is just no question that this fling is going to cost him and those around him very dearly.
The same goes for the woman. She is absolutely asking for trouble.
There is not much you can do other than to tell him that you are not going to stand by and watch him ruin his life and others. Do whatever you have to in order to stop him from continuing this insanity. It is what a good friend would do.
