AboutJudith Brandt Expertise I can answer questions regarding how to cheat and get away with it. I also have an extensive understanding of why people marry in the first place, and where the urge to cheat comes from. Love is an emotion programmed to self-destruct.
Experience Ten years 'in the field', on both sides of the adultery fence. My book THE 50-MILE RULE: Your Guide to Infidelity and Extra-marital Etiquette will be coming out in June, 2002 from Ten Speed Press.
Education/Credentials I have an MBA and an MA in Education
Expert: Judith Brandt Date: 6/24/2008 Subject: Husband of 20 years - Cheated w/married women
Question Never in a million years suspected anything - She left a box on our porch with a note. Saying here are all the things that remind me of you. (20 jewerly items, boots & one of his shirts) What the HELL!! He did admit that he would never would of told me of the supposely 6 mo affair. And that he never had sex with her.. "LOL".. I raised all 4 of our kids alone pratically I did everything by myself. It was hard. He worked all the time. We are in separate rooms. I can't afford to live on my own. And OMG He waits on me hand and foot now. It's remarkable how I am being treated so much better. He doesnt want a divorce. He paid for a tummy tuck and bought me a new car. Shoot should I leave. I am only using him at this point. I still bring up the "So, you say you never had sex, Liar" But my bills are paid and I get my way every day.. beside myself..
Answer Hi there:
You're the only one who can decide whether getting your bills paid and basically being able to lord over your husband is worth it. And it may well be -- it certainly beats being divorced and trying to raise kids on your own. And once your kids are out of the house, you can move on.
If you're willing to make the trade-off -- some economic security in trade for a more emotionally satisfying relationship (that may not last anyway) then hey, whatever works!
