AboutPastor Kimberly Lemler Expertise As an Ordained Minister, Life Coach, and Pastoral Counselor, I can help you with questions related to adultery. I was a victim of adultery in my first marriage so I understand deeply the feelings that one has in this situation. How we choose to respond to the situation is vital in our recovery. Letting go of bitterness and unforgiveness is key, and I can teach you how to do that. I have been happily remarried for 16 years.
Outside of AllExperts I can be reached at:
Walk By Faith Counseling Center
www.GodsHealingPower.org
Experience I have personal experience with a husband who committed adultery and have counseled people in this area. I have a weekly radio broadcast and also do street ministry, phone ministry,in-office ministry, e-mail ministry and have ministered on a worldwide prayerline. I am a life coach as well.
Publications Teaching CD's available on our website, GodsHealingPower.org. Look for several of our books to be published and on the website.
Education/Credentials I am a former school teacher, a graduate of Indiana University, 1984. I have received biblical instruction at Victory Bible Institute and am currently working on a PhD.
Question My husband cheated on me with a black woman. She was younger than his youngest daughter. Of course he denies it. But there was too much evidence. Phone bills, gone to same place everyday,etc. I told him if I knew for sure that he did that would be it. To me that was the ultimate betrayal. Everytime we are out he will always stare at the black women. Right in front of me. He is 67 and I am 64 and I have no money, no job and no car, so I have no place to go. So I guess you would say I am stuck.I have such low self esteem that I think nobody else would have me. Especially since I am old. He has always flirted with other women right in front of me and it doesn't bother him at all. He is not even an attractive man so I don't get it. He use to leave me just standing there and talk to a pretty girl. I was really shy back then and just let it fester inside me. It is finally getting me good now. This time I quit eating and landed in hospital but he doesn't see how what he did put me there. He just doesn't get it. He knows I cry about it but he doesn't try to comfort me. He just doesn't care.I told him I will never forgive him for this one. He did it before with a white woman 12 years ago, right before our son was killed. I think God punished our son for what he did and I hold him responsible for that. I know I have done things that I feel totally awful about. I can never forgive myself for them. But I have asked God to forgive me and was trying to do better. But this has brought the worst out in me. I don't know how much longer I can handle this.If I knew I wouldn't go to hell I would just kill myself and get out of this misery. Don't think we can afford counseling. He said he would go but I don't believe him. What am I to do? I pray to God, but I think he has bigger problems to worry about than me. Thanks
Answer Hi Anna,
Let me first say that YOU ARE VALUABLE!! You have no idea of your worth. You are God's creation and you have a purpose here and we need to get you moving toward fulfilling that purpose...
Anna, I need to know what your beliefs are concerning God. And also tell me more about your husband's beliefs and more about your life together.
I think I can help you begin to move forward, but you need to write back to me with more info, okay? I will be waiting for your letter..
