Expert: Dr. Mabel Swaby - 10/4/2011

Question
Last night I was laying on the bed and my wife was standing, I asked her out of the blue when she started having sex with the neighbor boy Steve. She started blinking very fast and leaned back as if to defend herself. After a few moments she turned to me and said I've never has sex with Steve. She took a polygraph test over a questionable relationship with a fellow worker, at which time she confessed to playing show and tell with Steve. But she holds on to the story that she has never had intercourse with any one but me, which I do not believe, for an old friend told me that she entered his hotel room twenty six years ago and asked if she could take a shower, a few min, later she called him into the shower saying something was wrong with the water, when he entered she was standing naked. I believe she's been playing me all our marriage. Please respond to my question, thanks Dan.

Answer
Hi Dan,

Thank you for your letter. I have a few questions in order to respond to you with helpful information. I know this situation is very upsetting to you.

 1.How long have you two been married. Over 26 years? (Noted from your letter)

 2. What happen after the polygraph? Evidently there are trust issues in your marriage that require outside assistance. Have you tried any?( Marriage Counseling)

 3. You really didn't ask a question, you just shared information. Is there a question that I help you with?

 4. Why is your friend telling you  something that happened 26 years ago. Did you ask her about it? 26 years is a long time to hold on to something Dan, that may or may not have happened. Life is much to short  for that. Don't you think Dan?


Please free to send your question. I know this is upsetting to you and I want to try to help.

Thank you,
Dr. Swaby