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Adultery/Supporting my boyfriend.


So, I have a boyfriend who has been cheated on several times in the past. I'm somewhat worried that later in our relationship it could affect things during any rough patches. I also just really care about him and want to make him to feel safe with me.

Is there anything I should do or keep in mind other than being a generally good partner or should that be enough? Sorry if I seem overly concerned, but I know being cheated on can really affect a person.

Hello C,

You can't take responsibility for what *might* happen or try to protect your boyfriend from his own feelings. All you can do is behave with honesty and integrity. It's up to him how he wants to proceed from there.

Good luck!

Laura Giles


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Laura Giles


Marital, relationship, adultery, children out of wedlock, divorce, custody, visitation, support, co-parenting, mediation, counseling, group counseling, step-parenting, pre-marital, and reconciling issues


I teach parent education classes and a group for people who are trying to strengthen their relationships in addition to providing individual counseling. I am the author of "The Other Child: Children of Affairs."

National Registry of Who's Who in Executive Professionals
National Guild of Hypnotists
National Association of Social Workers
Honorary chairman of the Business Advisory Council
Virginia Mediation Network

The Other Child: Children of Affairs, The Daily Herald (Chicago), New You, The Journal Gazette, Almeda Times-Star, Tacoma News Tribune, East West Woman. Tidewater Women, Dimensions

BS in Human Services Counseling- Old Dominion University
Master of Social Work- Norfolk State University Licensed clinical social worker

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National Registry of Who's Who in Executive Professionals

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