Expert: Pastor Kimberly Lemler - 6/1/2007

Question
This is the second time that I know of my pastor cheating. He is cheating with my friend from the church. He did admit to me the first time, but they both says it was not sexual. This time she says that they have ben sexual even in his study. When I went to him about it he only says that it did start back up but he says it was not sexual. I believe her and not him. There are a lot of souls at stake everyone loves him including my husband and family. I am so tired of men of God losing it and be the first one to say they don't believe in women preaching. Please tell e what I should do. I am at my wits end and is about to start staying at home for good?

Answer
Hi Victoria,

You are a watchman and I commend you for this. We are to hold our pastors accountable.  The answer to your question is an easy one. I want you to read Matthew 18:15-18. The answer is there.

Then you need to meet with elders of the church...bring someone with you who is another Christian. I would suggest you bring your husband.  Tell them what is going on.

If for some reason, this matter does not get resolved by the elders, then the matter must be brought before the whole church.

This will not be pleasant for the pastor...but he should understand what the Bible says about sowing and reaping. Exposing him will be the best thing that could happen to him at this point. If he continues on in his sin, blatantly ignoring what God says about adultery, he could die in his sin and not inherit heaven. Exposing his sin will force him to seek the Lord again (prayerfully) and to repent, making him right with God again.

The man will lie to you...he wants to keep his job and not be exposed. You need to expose the truth, IF YOU ARE CERTAIN THAT HE IS LYING.   The best scenario is for the woman to go to the elders with you and confess as well. She is in sin.

Keep me informed. I do pray for a Holy Ghost boldness to do what is right in His sight...

Rev. Lemler

P.S. Concerning women preaching....a good book to read is called When Women Were Priests. It's about time the church knew the historical truth about this and stop misinterpreting scripture.