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Belle wrote at 2008-06-14 20:50:18
I too am having an affair. Believe it or not, my husband of 10 years left ME for another woman and married her. I of course was I AM the other woman. We both are in the same business, he lives in the Pacific NW and I in the Midwest. Because he travels, he can plan his schedule around seeing me. The saddest part is that I too think he is my soul mate. He is everything I have ever wanted. He's been married 21 years, and when we have sex, he is like a teenager, experiencing it for the first time! What is the most depressing part is that if he were singe, there is no doubt in my mind that we would marry. We are in love, but as I write this, he is about to embark on a  10 day trip to Italy with his family. My heart is breaking!

SILK wrote at 2008-10-10 04:25:00

maxi wrote at 2008-10-13 15:54:06
Judy made a very good point. If you can see him discreetly for the rest of your life, then go on. But believe me it won't last that long. Sooner or late you have to make a decision. Stay or leave either your marriage or your affair. I am in the same predicament. But I'm that phase that I want to make a decision and let me tell you this. It's not easy. I need the courage to break-up with this guy and I don't know when and how.

Confused with love wrote at 2008-11-07 23:50:03
Wow, this is me too.  I have been married for two and a half years, but we have been together for 10.  He is wonderful and would do anything for me.  I am 28 years old and recently started to have those motherly feelings.  We have talked about having kids, but nothing seriously.

Well I am a professional, but I have a second job as a bartender one night a week, for fun and extra money.  I have had this job since I was in graduate school several years ago.  Occasionally a guy will leave his phone number for me, and I always throw it away.  Well several months ago a guy left me his phone number and I decided to stick it in my pocket.  I text him on the way home and we started emailing, texting and talking on the phone.  He is in town on business for several nights every week, and will be for the next few years.  So he started coming to see me at the bar when he got the chance.  We have met several times when it works for both of our schedules.  And yes we have had the most amazing sex, and I want more!.    

I feel like besides my husband this guy could also be my soul mate.  This guy has an amazing personality, but looks.....not my type.  My husband is way better looking than him.  I frequently ask myself "what are you doing".  I don't understand how I can go from thinking of having kids to having an affair?  I don't think I would ever leave my husband, but I have felt that things have gotten stale recently.  I come from an extremely catholic family who strongly disagrees with divorce; however this other guy has brought new excitement into my life.  I love it.  It has been a long time since I have felt butterflies in my stomach.  

Here is the big catch.  He is getting married in about six weeks!  He says he thinks that he is marrying the right girl.  Knowing what he is doing to her right now and how he tells me he misses me and can’t wait until we see each other, I don’t think I could ever have a real relationship with him because I would be afraid he would do the same thing to me.  Two months before your marriage is suppose to be the time you are the most into who ever you are marrying, at least that is what I thought.  He has told me that things will not change once he gets married.  

I know I need to stop what I am doing, but I am addicted to him, the affection he shows me and the attention.  We both lie to our significant others to see each other……this is dangerous.  This affair has affected my personal and professional life.  I am unable to concentrate at work, sleep, and I have lost over 15 pounds.

Ed wrote at 2009-07-02 08:20:13
enjoy the affair for the calories it burns off and the sexual satisfaction it brings. You're travelling through life meeting people which is healthy. You're not a bad person except in the eye of narrow minded chattering classes who probably can't get laid as spectacularly as you clearly can. Just keep your lines clear and don't form expectations about where the relationship will go. It will go nowhere beyond the line of non-detection.

I've had an affair for 6 years in a 15 year marriage and that's just the way my life has worked. It works for me and I intend to continue. The wife and the mistress....a great combination. The wife gets the life and the mistress gets laid (she's also long term married btw).  

Babygirl wrote at 2009-10-07 16:57:09
Wow....this is so true. I too am married (15 years) and have secretly been seeing a married man. Mine is a little more complicated. The person I am seeing is married, however he is a distant uncle. We hadn't seen each other in over 18 years and when we did we both have so much in common and just clicked. I know some of you will say that this is incest and it is gross, but when I am not with him I am totally lost. My marriage has gone through a lot and I really am not sure where it will end up. I sometimes think I will end my fling, but something keeps bringing us together. Please give me advice.

Angela wrote at 2009-11-20 23:41:22
I totally agree with this answer.  You would really benefit from reading "Women's Infidelity".  Right now, with the other man you are experiencing a drug like euphoria that eventually wears off, similar to what has happened with your husband.  You are probably experiencing being "ON" love, and not "in" love.  This chemical, called phenylethylamine which is chemical in your brain emitted by the actual act and/or the thought.  You are infatuated right now.  If you end your marriage and let's say, the other man leaves his wife, in 6 years, or less, you will be having the EXACT same feelings.  My thought... Continue to get your "fix" and don't disrupt two families.  Enjoy the time you have together and do not try to possess it.  You are experiencing an incredible human experience.  It is not right, it is not wrong, it is not good, it is not bad... It just "IS".  Enjoy.

soconfused wrote at 2010-01-08 21:08:09
OMG, when I am reading these comments, I feel like all of you are me in a nutshell! I have been married for 7 yrs. I cannot believe I am writing on here. I think I am because I need to say something before I explode!

I have been seeing my guy for about 7 mos. He was there like a Knight in Shining Armor, when I was going through something very scary, he was the one who made me safe.

It started out very innocent, emails, text, occasional phone calls....Fast forward 5mos, we finally did the deed. Since then, more frequent phone calls, see each other whenever we can. Did I mention he was married too? I went in eyes wide open, I know I do not want to lose what I have at home and neither does he. Lately we have been seeing each other a lot more frequently and I find myself so deep in this....I am scared of the consequences but cannot stop. I want to continue on and so does he...I know that my heart will be crushed when it does end. I don't see it ending anytime soon. Ho Hum, what to do????  Thanks for listening....

MrsGG wrote at 2010-06-15 17:25:41
It is nice to know that there are so many other people in this boat, not just me.  I have been married for nearly 12 years.  About 3 years ago, I began messing around with a friend of our in our neighborhood.  Then I admitted to having an affair with someone else which about destroyed my husband and family.  I swore I would never let this happen again.  I didn't want for it to happen, wasn't looking for it..but then I was introduced to a friend of my husbands from years back.  He is married and even though I was attracted to him, I would have never thought something like this would happen.  Well, here we are...its only been a few weeks, and I am on the fence about whether or not this is infatuation.  We have been together sexually 2 times and I get emails from him everyday...we communicate in one form or another daily.  It seems as though we have really fallen in love, but I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt anyone.  I still have a young child at home to raise.  He told me that he would leave his wife for me.  That we were brought together for a reason. I feel such a connection with him and its not lust, but real care and love.   I have to decide if I want to continue this secret relationship and take the risks or decide if he truely is the one I am to be with and destroy the life I am currently living.  Somedays I wonder if I am really the type of woman who should be married at all.  Is this a mid-life thing? I am almost 38, and have only had behavior like this for the last 3 years...I can't get this person out of mind, and he is always telling me the same thing. The tough thing is, his wife and I are friends too and we always are making plans for the 4 of us to do things. I feel like a bad person, but can one honestly control who they fall in love with?  thanks for listening!

Hls wrote at 2010-09-05 01:20:48
So comforting to read everyones' struggles.

I have been married 29 years and my affair partner of

2 years I have known in a business setting for 10 years.

He has been married for 33 years.  We are in love

and have an amazing relationship.  I love my husband

and my 3 grown kids and he loves his wife and his 2 grown

kids.  I am realizing I want more than a comfortable relationship.  I am confused. He said he won't leave his wife

but also struggles with not having what he and I have together.  I am thinking of leaving both of them and having

some time to be with just me to sort out things. I am

scared to take this big step but maybe it will either spark

things in my marriage or give me clarity to leave.


donotproceed wrote at 2011-06-03 07:17:08
I totally agree.  I wish someone would've given me this advice before I stepped into affair.  My husband found out and filed divorce. Now, my children are suffering.  My family is torn apart and we are so poor now.I hate I did it. We are all suffering depression, anxiety, it is like waking to a nightmare everyday.  I'm still with the guy I had the affair with only because we feel we did the children wrong and we are trying to make things right.  I feel stuck with the guy because all my finances were messed up when my husband stopped paying the mortgage, so now I'm suffering foreclosure, divorce, depression, anxiety, and I am broken hearted to see my children suffering through it all. They may not finish high school because of the depression.  I hate I did it.  

donotproceed wrote at 2011-06-03 07:28:00
Trust me don't continue with any affairs. It is a test.  You will regret it. Love your spouse as much as you can. Love your life as much as you can.  It is only an illusion for now.  You think you are in love, but please trust me don't proceed.  Just trust me. Everyday is a nightmare. I've lost my family, my tradition, my children, my mind, my life, my home, my finances - everything.  I am now coping with the depression.  Please put your family first.  This is what my oldest son use to say.  My oldes left home because of my affair.  My husband told him about my affair and he left home and said he was never going to return...He hasn't returned yet either. My other two children are devasted that mommy did what she did.  Mommies hold the honor. I gave that all away and I feel terrible everyday.

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confused yet content wrote at 2012-09-19 06:05:38
I am in the same boat, however my situation is a bit more complicated. I am married and I have 3 beautiful children with my husband. He had 2 children prior with his former girlfriend. We have been married now for almost 9 years. We share joint custody of his daughters with his ex. His ex is now married and has 1 other child with her husband.  For the most part, we have all four gotten along rather decently. Strangely enough, I work for the same company as her husband. We work in a very large company, and until recently we had never been in any "work-related" contact. However, over the past 10 months, we have had to work very closely and in the process, begun having an affair. This was never intended, and was a surprise to both of us, but we cannot stop. I am not in love with him and we neither one want to leave our marriages or families. We both have the same things to lose (literally). I know it is wrong but I am completely heartbroken at the thought of ending it. If our children (and stepchildren) ever found out, we would be devasted. I have never cheated before and this is the worst predicament I have ever gotten myself into. My husband is amazing and I love him very much. Deep down do i really love my lover? Or is the thought of losing this "excitement" overriding my better judgement? I don't think I could live with the consequences if my husband ever found ou, but the few times we have talked about ending the affair has left me broken. Thanks for listening. -confused yet content

tabicat wrote at 2013-02-22 17:21:22
I have had several 1night stands an lasting affairs over my 15 year marriage.every time the experience was exciting. it boosted my self esteem in some weird way. it made me feel sexy an attractive. I haven't felt that way in my marriage. but always end up the same way every time. someone will always find out either I wasn't being honest with the person I was having an affair with and they realize I was married or some kind of way my husband found out. I've even been proposed to 4 * by other men during my marriage. of coursi could not accept. Ultimately Id wind up losing up  a good friend in the end I love my husband but I'm not in love with him. we are family but I don't have any sexual or romantic.feelings towards him  unless im drunk as hell.this doesn't happen very often. my husband has been battling with erectile dysfunction due to high blood pressure low testosterone. I just lost all the desire. I'm still young and I have needs. my husband is only 2 years and 11 month older than me. so I found it difficult to understand what was going on until I researched information on the Internet I realize now that it's not his fault but I still feel. like I'm missing out on so much. ultimately I just think it's best for you to do what makes you happy. you only have 1 life to live in is no reason to live it full of regrets.

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Barbora Mátyás wrote at 2013-11-15 12:42:00
     My whole life i ve never had a stable relationship all men come get want they and go.As a matter of fact i saw myself as tool for all men.I don't no its like i was just not loveable no matter how i give my all to them they end up living me with nothing but a broken heart.All these bad relationship i had experienced led to a psyhcological breake down thank my star that i got through that.Finding a man was never hard for me they just all wanted sex with me and once they get it, they all live but for the first time i found one that was willing to stay.I had never felt whole in my entire life but with him i kept floating  in the sky.Yes  he was married and unhappy  he only married his wife cos they had a child together.One thing was for sure, as he made me whole i also did to him.We where in love as much as i cud tell he was willing to divorce his wife to be with me but she wudn't let go like she owned his life and wanted him to me miserable 4 life.I don't no but something made her too dengerous for him to get out of the marriage.For the first time in my life i found a man that was not willing to go anyway he was willing to fight for our love ven if it kills him.2 year passed and she wouldn't let go so i just felt i should do somthing about it.I seeked advice and help if they could i even checked the internet for solution which endded up being a waste of time.However, i saw articles or rather  comments of a lot of persons who used spell casting to fix their relationship and some it get those who they loved to see how much they loved them.And they all kept referring to a paticular spell caster mutton osun.At first i just ingnored it but my lover came across those article also.After we talked about it we desided to contact him and asked if he cud in any way help us.He just and only asked us to provide some really weird materials that just thinking if it made me scared not like they were harmful its just that i was not used to this things.We ie me and my lover desided that we sould asked him to get them with what we sent to him ie, money.We asked him to cast a spell to make ,y lover wife set him free and he did as we asked and it walked i know cos 12 hours before he said he has completed the spell, she was still very much not going to sign any divorce papper but after thecompletation of the spell all we did was give her the papper and without a fight he signed it.I know its hard to belief only the people close to us know how true this is.lets just say you want to contact use this email address

joel wrote at 2013-12-09 11:52:49
My mouth is full of testimonies, Am Joel Mercy my husband left home for  

two years to south Africa for a tourist, where he meant this Lady and he  

was bewitch by the girl my husband refuse to come back home i cry  

day and night looking for who to help me, i read a news paper about a  

powerful spell caster called DR OKAYAR and i contacted the spell caster to  

help me get my lover back to me and he ask me not to worry that  

the gods will fight for me.. he told me by mid-night when all the spirit is  

at rest he will cast a spell to reunite my lover back to me. and he did in  

less than 3 days my husband came back to me and started crying that i  

should forgive him am so happy for what this spell caster did for me. i no many people we still need this help from this great man DR OKAYAR    contact  the great man on  am sure he we help you too  

joel wrote at 2013-12-09 11:56:53
My mouth is full of testimonies, Am Joel Mercy my husband left home for  

two years to south Africa for a tourist, where he meant this Lady and he  

was bewitch by the girl my husband refuse to come back home i cry  

day and night looking for who to help me, i read a news paper about a  

powerful spell caster called DR OKAYAR and i contacted the spell caster to  

help me get my lover back to me and he ask me not to worry that  

the gods will fight for me.. he told me by mid-night when all the spirit is  

at rest he will cast a spell to reunite my lover back to me. and he did in  

less than 3 days my husband came back to me and started crying that i  

should forgive him am so happy for what this spell caster did for me. i no many people we still need this help from this great man DR OKAYAR    contact  the great man on  am sure he we help you too  

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Nameme wrote at 2014-04-18 03:16:56
My name is really not important here cos all i can say is that if you need a spell caster to help you with your problem then the best one is MUTTON OSUN. He is the only reliable spell caster i know.This is not just cos he helped me i mean if you are reading this comment on the internet, you  will definitely see other comment about how he has saved relationship with his spell,helped people win lottery and i read one a man named Sandburg don't know if its his real name said  MUTTON OSUN help with a spell to secure a job and bring back wife who left him.I am composing this comment to pin the fact that MUTTON OSUN has also helped me.After six years of marriage it hard to really understand when your wife is see another man and asking for a divorce just so see can be with him.It so hard for me cos i thought we were doing fine.Maybe i was too blind that i didn't know something was wrong with us or i wasn't giving her the attention she needed.Which ever which way there was something that i knew,she was breaking my heart and i still loved her with my life.I know people may probably say it unlike a man but i lost my virginity to her and sine then there have been no other in my life but her.I gave up everything for her My family, and everything and everyone that wanted us not to be.I could not imagine how she could be so heartless and so unfaithful i mean i gave her my life!.I was ready to let her go i left our house and her new painter boyfriend moved in.They turned my private store room to his art studio and started sharing my bed with my wife.He was practically living my life for me cos everything i had in our house was converted to his.With every day that passed grew mad at the painter cos i was still in love with my wife she is the only family i have left and in my head i thought i just lost her to another man after all the sacrifice i have made to see us together.Before i even thought of spell casting i tried the memory lane method but she was not even willing to talk to me for more than a minute or even have a bit with me it was almost like she was allergic to me after five years of marriage.The thought of another man making love to my wife consumed me i lost focus and was totally confused on what to do.I remember drowning myself with bottles of vodka to kill the pain and try to forget her but i pass out and wake up thinking about her.Just when i thought i needed to get rid of of my cheating wife with the help on the internet, i came across a lot of comment on how MTTON OSUN has helped to get exes back so at that moment i was no longer thinking of how to get rid of her instead i was thinking and willing to do anything just to have my wife back.When i contacted the spell caster that is MUTTON OSUN with the email i saw on the comment he called me, after i made him understand my problem.He told me he was sad for me cos i left my whole world and family for her.He asked that i get some materials i can disclose but it nothing to worry about cos they are totally harmless.I felt it was gonna be hard to send them down to him so i gave him the money for the materials.After two days he sent me a package containing my spell.He instructed me on how to make it effective and i swear on my dead sister grave the spell made my wife mine again,Its was so supernatural how it happened i can't just explain from how she left the painter and everything beats my imagination all i know is that MUTTON OSUN spell is was powerful enough to get me my wife back.Contact him here on his email address for solution to your own problem

brunelda nato1 wrote at 2014-08-17 20:06:12
Probably all this testimony you read about spell casting online are spam right?And yeah some are spam some think all of them are spam which is totally not bad and i also know some believe spell casting really works but have not been able to find the right one. Well i think i found the right spell caster Metodo. I know he is real not cos he helped me but because i was there in his temple i Have seen him and his temple and i tell you it can't get more really that what am writing now. I know you may want to know why and what lead me to contact a spell caster i am a south African woman here in south African as a matter of fact in Africa having a male child is like the most important thing in a marriage and it turned out that i am married to a very traditional man as in a he believes the male child carry the family name on and on but the females get married and change there name which is true. I were married for six years and i had no male child for him. Maybe friends and family filled his head with a lot of things like i don't have a male child for him and as a result he need to get a divorce and get another wife that can bear him a male child. I always thought the people that filled his head with this ideas where is family and friends the people that i smile and dine with. The very people who ought to have advice him rightly. I never found out if they where involved in wanting to ruin life and my marriage. Not because i could not find out but cost i didn't want to develop hatred for them cos i will always get to see them and it is not really healthy seeing the faces of people you hate. At that time, i mean before i knew my husband got himself a lover i was paranoid about him having a lover cos our lives changed a lot he starting coming home late he wouldn't touch me any more and even he started avoiding me in our home making up excuses to stay all day in his study room doing nothing and telling me his need something off to clear his head. We had fights all the time i brought up the matter if he was see someone else. Maybe he got tired of lying i don't know he finally asked for a divorce. A divorce my family saw him through his university and got him a got job i told myself and now he's asking me for a divorce cos i don't a male child yet for him. He was ready to let go of his three beautiful daughters he asked that i take them along. Maybe he was a real f**l and didn't know what he had and maybe he didn't deserve someone like me but one thing was crystal clear to me i was still in love with him and i wanted a complete family for my kid that and the fact that i raised him from the gutter i didn't care about any of his problem when i married him and i forgot to say my father never approved our marriage but still i jumped into it thinking we are going to have each other forever. Though we are still together now but its cos of the spell i had metodo cast on him to make him see how much he needs me in this life. When i contacted metodo he asked that i get the materials for the spell which i did and delivered the materials to him in person that is to say i came in contact with him. I was to return in to his temple in 7 seven day and within those seven day he gave me a blessed a red candle asking that i command and say whatever i wanted every night within those seven days which i did on the seventh day when i returned to metodo temple he gave a harmless powerful substance with instruction on how to use it. This might seem like fiction or lie or what ever you lucky reads may think but deep down you know it true you just looking for a way not to get involved. I ve got my husband back and my family life couldn't be better thanks to the spell though i don't have a male child for him at least his them lover bore him one. contact him with his email if you want his help metodoacamufortress @ yahoo. com

Mandy Divanna wrote at 2016-11-08 08:44:53
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I'm so excited my husband is back after he have left me for another woman.

My husband and I have been married for about 7 yrs now. We were happily married with two kids, a boy and a girl. 4 months ago, I started to notice some strange behavior from him and a few weeks later I found out that my husband is seeing someone. He started coming home late from work, he hardly care about me or the kids anymore, Sometimes he goes out and doesn't even come back home for about 3-4 days. I did all I could to rectify this problem but all to no avail. I became very worried and needed help. As I was browsing through the internet one day, I came across a website that suggested that Dr GOODLUCK can help solve marital problems, restore broken relationships and so on. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and and told him my problems and he told me what to do and i did it and he did a spell for me. 17 hours later, my husband came to me and apologized for the wrongs he did and promise never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. I and my family are living together happily again.. All thanks to Dr GOODLUCK. If you need a spell caster that can cast a spell that truly works, I suggest you contact him. He will not disappoint you. This is his E-mail: and you can also Whatsapp him or call with his mobile +2349059610309


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