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| Subject | Date Asked |
| i cant get out.. | 5/25/2012 |
| Q: I am married with 2 kids for 14 years and we live a normal happy family life.( Although i have some ... A: Your entire problem is caused by one simple thing. You are being ruled by your emotion. Your ... | |
| Almost cheater | 5/22/2012 |
| Q: I found out that mu husband of 10 years had signed up for adult friend finder. He had completed his ... A: First, your husband needs to understand that signing up for that site WAS cheating. Emailing the ... | |
| moving on | 4/24/2012 |
| Q: I am in a separation..I am 70 (active) and husband 67 (active). He has moved in with his 44 yr old ... A: What your husband is doing is absolutely wrong. However, I don't see anything you can do to change ... | |
| Giving My Father-in-law And Brother-in-law Blowjobs/Oral Sex/Sucking Their Dicks/Sucking Them Off | 3/3/2012 |
| Q: Please give me some advice........................ I've been cheating on my husband for a really ... A: First, the very best situation would have been to have been faithful to your husband, but clearly we ... | |
| 15weeks pregnant and a lieing cheating husband. | 3/2/2012 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for two years now We're both Christian born again and God ... A: I am so sorry to hear your situation. I know exactly what you are going through. I honestly ... | |
| take him back? | 2/7/2012 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for one year . he's handsome and knows how to make a girl feel special ... A: It sounds like it's possible this relationship could end up working. If this man does have a ... | |
| take him back? | 2/5/2012 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for one year . he's handsome and knows how to make a girl feel special ... A: I am extremely inclined to tell you exactly how your situation is. From the outside looking in, it ... | |
| Trust and Integrity | 2/2/2012 |
| Q: I met a man 2 years ago and fell deeply in love with him. After several warning signs, I explored ... A: Your doubt is reasonable and justified. Logically the decision would be to run. My position to ... | |
| Trust and Integrity | 2/1/2012 |
| Q: I met a man 2 years ago and fell deeply in love with him. After several warning signs, I explored ... A: It is in fact possible for a man to change. One of the things that can change him is age itself. ... | |
| My husband had an affair | 1/11/2012 |
| Q: My husband had an affair with the neighbor about 7 months ago and it lasted for 3 months. I found ... A: If this situation were handled the right way, you would move away from your neighbor and never have ... | |
| What do I do now? | 11/30/2010 |
| Q: It is the same old story I'm afraid. I met Jay in Aug 2007, he had just ended a 5 year relationship ... A: If I was in your position I would go and confide in his ex in sincerity, and get her to tell you in ... | |
| Affair, child with OM + own 2 children | 12/12/2009 |
| Q: Well, where do I begin.... in 2006 I found out about my husband's affairs and I was devastated. We ... A: Your situation is pretty rare. What you have here is a marriage that has been battered beyond ... | |
| Moving Forward | 12/9/2009 |
| Q: It has been a year since my separation from the cheating ex-wife. I have decided to move forward ... A: The solution to your problem is going to have to come with time. It is a strong instinct for a ... | |
| Cheating husband | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: I was married for 16 years,have 2 daughters and now came to know that my husband is cheating on me ... A: Your husband has created a complicated situation. Normally when a cheater repents and wants to come ... | |
| Cheating husband | 12/5/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have a 2 year old daughter and I am 5 months pregnant with our son. We have been ... A: Nicole, One thing you could do is simply go to the post office with your husband and forward all ... | |
| Ex married the woman he cheated with | 12/3/2009 |
| Q: My 51 year old exhusband and I had been married for 25 years when I found out he had been having an ... A: In many cases I handle, the people involved come to me at much earlier stages in their adulterous ... | |
| concience | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: my husband of 32yrsleft me a letter 4months ago to come home from work to telling me he had been ... A: You need to look at life in terms of right and wrong. Think of it like this: Imagine the empty ... | |
| Adulterous wife | 11/29/2009 |
| Q: I am 54 and have been married for 26 years.My wife has been having sexual relations with other ... A: When children are involved in a marriage, all of our decisions must be adjusted to consider what is ... | |
| How do i deal with my father | 11/28/2009 |
| Q: am 24,my parents are divorsed for almost 21 yrs, i heard different stories from them. i did not ... A: You have a lot of strength of character, and you have the heart of a genuinely good person. I ... | |
| Broken Family | 11/25/2009 |
| Q: I am wondering if it is possible for a man to change his character overnight? I was in a LTR with a ... A: Yes, he will regret it someday, and yes, their relationship is doomed. It's doomed from the start ... | |
| my wife the adulteress | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I were married quite a few years and we had 3 children.After our third child I had a ... A: The best I can do is give you an answer from my own perspective. If this were my wife I wouldn't ... | |
| Cheating husband | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have a 2 year old daughter and I am 5 months pregnant with our son. We have been ... A: Your decision now must depend on your husband's state of mind. If you believe he has really ... | |
| I Don't Know What To Do | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: I am a 14 year old girl that has known that her father is cheating on her mother for quite a while ... A: It's hard to know what else to tell you. Your father is doing things and not getting the results ... | |
| wife and her sex friends | 11/4/2009 |
| Q: I took your advice as well as some good friends of mine and told my wife that she had to find ... A: I'm really glad to hear you are getting things straightened out. The relationship you had wasn't ... | |
| I Don't Know What To Do | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: I am a 14 year old girl that has known that her father is cheating on her mother for quite a while ... A: Your question is a challenge to answer. Not because I don't know what to do, but because I do know ... | |
| After divorce questions | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: I thank all those here who help me through my recent divorce with the advice. As it stands, I'm ... A: This is a predicament that you will have to solve by a source other than communicating with your ... | |
| Suggestions for a Husband on the Mend from Adultery | 10/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my wife for 10 years, 7 of that married. We have 2 daughter who are my greatest ... A: Your story brings back memories. The way I caught my wife was by putting a recording device in my ... | |
| wife and her sex friends | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: Good day, here is my problem, i caight my wife sitting in the back yard early in the morning last ... A: Your question was "What can I do to stop her and get my wife back?" The answer is you can't stop ... | |
| Cheating husband | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 7 years. He has cheated several times in the past. We have been thru ... A: It is rightfully your decision whether to take him back. He says he wants you back "no matter what ... | |
| My wife finally confessed after 25 days. | 10/17/2009 |
| Q: Following your advise to me about my cheating wife and after I had applied what you advised me, my ... A: Yes, the principle still remains. She needs to come clean on everything before you can have a real, ... | |
| I really do not know what to do with my cheating wife. | 10/10/2009 |
| Q: Ever since we got married 5 years ago, I have had problems with my wife. One incidence, actually ... A: On your question about the other man, I believe it is best to leave that issue alone entirely and ... | |
| My husband cheated on me and I'm pregnant | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: I'm 27,15 weeks pregnant and have been married for 2 years and with him for 10. He wouldn't admit ... A: (Sorry, that is what I can see where the name goes) In your situation I think leaving, at least for ... | |
| He won't forgive me | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: I've been married for 17 years. Once a year and a half ago I had a one night stand. I confessed 4 ... A: I see your situation and I know what's going on in your husband's mind. In my own situation it ... | |
| I don't know what to do. | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: I am in love with a married man. I know that this sounds extremely typical, and that there are ... A: I'm glad you asked the question at the end: "What do I do when I love him more than anything?" I'll ... | |
| Cheating husband | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: I caught my husband cheating earlier this year. He had been having an affair with this woman for a ... A: I can't say much to you at this point except that I understand what you are going through and you ... | |
| I really do not know what to do with my cheating wife. | 10/4/2009 |
| Q: Ever since we got married 5 years ago, I have had problems with my wife. One incidence, actually ... A: There is no question that your wife is cheating. She is absolutely cheating on you with other men. ... | |
| cheating husband | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: My husband cheated on me. 2 years later I found out he had never ended contact with her,once again ... A: Well you are a sweet heart. I hope everything goes well with you. It all needs to come out, and he ... | |
| cheating husband | 9/27/2009 |
| Q: My husband cheated on me. 2 years later I found out he had never ended contact with her,once again ... A: The way I explain the importance of truth is like this: Lies are like garbage. I say that because ... | |
| cheating | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for 3 years, we bought a house back in 2006 and we broke up once in 2007 ... A: This is sad, but you asked why he does that. The reason he does that is because he loves the girl ... | |
| cheating husband | 9/25/2009 |
| Q: My husband cheated on me. 2 years later I found out he had never ended contact with her,once again ... A: The importance of no contact is very simple. Once he cheated, the marriage was over. Marriage can ... | |
| my husband seeking out porn | 9/24/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been going through a rough patch in our marriage (of 3 years). We don't ... A: Without knowing your ages or individual relationship history, I will treat this as a "simple answer ... | |
| Husband cheated, teenage boys know! | 2/25/2009 |
| Q: I really need some help with this. I have 3 sons, 15, 14, and 10. The boys are from my 1st marriage. ... A: There is no real way to "help your boys through this" except by example, and the example you must ... | |
| Adultery | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to the same man for 25 years. During those years he has had, to my knowledge, 3 ... A: This depends a lot on how easy it has been for your husband to "get out of trouble" in the past ... | |
| cheating and child support | 2/20/2009 |
| Q: Would it be possible for my husband to receive child support from me, since I make more than he ... A: The answer to this question depends on details which would be looked at by a judge. Normally, the ... | |
| My wifes wandering heart. | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: I recently posted this question on Yahoo and I do not feel as if I have gotten good advice. Please ... A: There is really only one question you are faced with, and nothing else. This situation, and your ... | |
| husband had an affair | 2/14/2009 |
| Q: My story is long and complicated so I'll try to keep it as simple as I can. I have been married to ... A: I understand your position and your feelings absolutely. You are exactly where I was. This is the ... | |
| husband had an affair | 2/13/2009 |
| Q: My story is long and complicated so I'll try to keep it as simple as I can. I have been married to ... A: I understand you are emotionally tangled in your situation, but for someone reading your story, ... | |
| Cheating wife. not sure what to do now! | 2/7/2009 |
| Q: I am the husband of a wife who is having an affair. We have been married for over 20yrs with a kid ... A: It might help to just look at the whole thing from an "outside" standpoint. What is right, what is ... | |
| Cheating wife. not sure what to do now! | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: I am the husband of a wife who is having an affair. We have been married for over 20yrs with a kid ... A: One way you could look at your situation is from the perspective of the average successful marriage, ... | |
| Husband loves another woman & she's pregnant! | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: I am going through alot right now. I have been married for 6 months and my Husband has another ... A: It's interesting how emotions can make a very simple situation so impossibly complicated! Thank ... | |
| my husbands affairs.. | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: 4 years ago my husband of 20 years had an affair with my cousin, one that was like a sister to me. ... A: This situation is very clear to me. Your husband has had his cake and eaten it too for too long. ... | |
| Cheating wife. not sure what to do now! | 1/14/2009 |
| Q: I am the husband of a wife who is having an affair. We have been married for over 20yrs with a kid ... A: There are several clear things that you need to take care of. I will tell them to you here, and you ... | |
| Adultery | 1/11/2009 |
| Q: I ended the relationship with my first love after i found out that he was married and had been ... A: Sometimes I feel like I really need to lay down the simple truth at the risk of a questioner giving ... | |
| adultery | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: My husband whom is an minister has for the whole time we have been married(5 years) has from time to ... A: Ann, there is a way you can get through this. I will give you a prediction. The time will come ... | |
| adultery | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: My husband whom is an minister has for the whole time we have been married(5 years) has from time to ... A: In this situation of adultery, your husband's being a minister is unrelated. This is a marriage ... | |
| Now What? | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 7 years now, and have been with my wife for 9 years. We have two beautiful ... A: If there was no sex and you have been faithful to your wife in that area, then you have a marriage ... | |
| Now What? | 1/4/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 7 years now, and have been with my wife for 9 years. We have two beautiful ... A: I have the answers you need. I am ready and anxious to help. However, I will need to know if you ... | |
| Is it possible to fix this? | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: I've just found out that my wife of almost 7 years has cheated on me 5 times in the last 2 years, ... A: There are a couple of things here that I can see need clarified. We need to look at these points ... | |
| adultery | 12/24/2008 |
| Q: I'd like to thank you sincerely for answering my question SO quickly and making me feel better by ... A: You might want to try explaining to your husband the way this works between two people in a ... | |
| adultery | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: I recently found out that my husband had an affair with who I THOUGHT was my best friend. He says ... A: One thing that I hope will take the edge off of your pain is if you realize that for the past ... | |
| has a mutual friend | 12/16/2008 |
| Q: "my wife had a affair with someone that was suppose to be our friend.she knew him before I knew ... A: This is a case of "where do you draw the line?" The place where you draw the line is right at ... | |
| what do i do? | 12/5/2008 |
| Q: "So, to start, the story. It all started about 1 month ago. I had sent a text message from my ... A: This situation is a little unusual because you are catching it before anything actually "happens." ... | |
| What should I do? | 12/4/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for 7 years, my husband had an affair the 1st time when I was 7 months pregnant ... A: You are in a situation where you are going to be tested to the very extreme of your ability. This ... | |
| adultery/infidelity | 11/29/2008 |
| Q: I am a Christian, but not perfect. My first marriage ended after five years due to my shame and ... A: The idea of living with a member of the opposite sex, whether you are in love with him or not, is ... | |
| my husband commited adultry | 11/28/2008 |
| Q: been married for 3yrs an i was workin at a place an got laid off my husbad got hired out there an i ... A: I know your exact situation. It is very important that you rise above the pain. If you give your ... | |
| cheating husband | 11/27/2008 |
| Q: After 17 years with him he finally told me that he had more affairs than we had years together. Now ... A: In this situation, it is your husband's responsibility to earn your trust. If he accuses you of not ... | |
| cheating husband | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: After 17 years with him he finally told me that he had more affairs than we had years together. Now ... A: I want to let you know that I understand your pain completely. However, to answer your question to ... | |
| Trying to Cope | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married 16 years and together 19. I am a consultant and travel a lot and I ... A: After what my wife did, if these things were happening in our relationship, she realizes our ... | |
| Why did my husband cheat? | 11/16/2008 |
| Q: I am trying to come up with reasons why my husband cheated and I just don't get it. I mean I try to ... A: In my own case I was supporting the household the way it sounds like you are, and I was also fixing ... | |
| Wife cheated while pregnant with 1st, pregnant by lover with 2nd child!! | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: I have no idea how to deal with this. After finding text messages last year on my wife's cell phone ... A: Your situation is similar to mine, only when my wife cheated there were mutual friends who were ... | |
| Cheating spouse has outside kids | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: I recently found out my husband of 18 years has two kids by a woman ages 6 and 4 months. I dont want ... A: I wish it was your husband asking me these questions, because it's his responsibility to do right by ... | |
| Cheating spouse has outside kids | 10/30/2008 |
| Q: I recently found out my husband of 18 years has two kids by a woman ages 6 and 4 months. I dont want ... A: I'm afraid you have asked this question of a religious man who believes killing unborn children is ... | |
| i cheated on my husband while he is deployed | 10/25/2008 |
| Q: This is very hard for me to even talk about but I really need some answers and I need some kind of ... A: I apologize for taking so long to respond. I hope you will not rate me low for timeliness, my ... | |
| wife cheated on me | 10/20/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I were at a wedding she had to much to drink and was. flirting inappropriately with a ... A: I believe the two of you have a very good chance of having a good marriage. It appears you may have ... | |
| husbands betrayal | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: my husband has always enjoyed drinking and going out at night with his friends. i was always very ... A: Your husband is entirely responsible for his own decisions, as are all the rest of us. If he says ... | |
| Adultery | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: After we had a fight about 4 weeks ago, I was under a lot of pressure having just been laid off and ... A: Based only on what you've told me, I would guess something is going on. Unless he has some ... | |
| Cheating wife. | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: I just recently found out my biggest fear my wife cheated on me!! We are approaching our 5 year ... A: I have no expertise in law at all. I know they change from state to state, but I am at a total loss ... | |
| cheating husband | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: married for 13 years with 2 children. Husband has had an affair in past producing child been ... A: With a man like this, you have a choice of living with the man and his continuing habit, or leaving ... | |
| Adultery | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: How do I move forward and get the images of my wife having sex with another man gone from my mind? A: Kevin, I wish I could say "You simply go and strangle the other man to death, then kick his head ... | |
| Cheating | 9/28/2008 |
| Q: married her and was posted within an year to a sub district heading it.As per the convention a ... A: I believe it would be worthwhile to visit the earlier place of posting only if you can meet the ... | |
| help | 9/26/2008 |
| Q: I am 23yo and my husband is 24. We have 2 children(5 and 1). We have been married for 3 years. When ... A: I want to let you know that I really understand what you are going through. I feel your pain ... | |
| Cheating | 9/25/2008 |
| Q: married her and was posted within an year to a sub district heading it.As per the convention a ... A: I am not totally clear on your current situation. Is the domestic helper still working in the ... | |
| affair | 9/17/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been happily married for 20 years. last year a client of his began flirting ... A: It sounds like your husband is a normal man with higher than normal self control and devotion (to ... | |
| What do I do? | 9/14/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 8 years. I've never cheated on her up until last December. ... A: I want to point something out to you that you have already verified in your question. That is that ... | |
| I need an advise pls... | 9/6/2008 |
| Q: My partner of 5 yrs, whom I have trusted, went out with this woman that he recently met, they ... A: If there was no sex, then you will know because he will be able to end his relationship with her ... | |
| dealing with emotions | 9/1/2008 |
| Q: i am having a serious problem controlling my thoughts about a few incidents (2 in particular) which ... A: Your issue is a trust issue. I have felt the exact same feelings and understand your situation ... | |
| Puzzling Question | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: Can you tell me your opinion on this: My husband watches internet porn 2-3 times a month for hours ... A: Deb, You are right, this is an interesting question. The answer lies entirely in your husband's ... | |
Adultery
Answers by Expert:
The Man of Steel
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Expertise
I can answer questions about how to handle your position with a cheating spouse or one that has cheated recently. How to straighten up your life and get back on track one way or the other. My answers will include God because He fills the most vital part in your recovery. They will also include help with the decisions you will have to make to clean things up.
Experience
Was cheated on several times by the same woman. We were able to save and keep our marriage, and we will never have this problem again as long as we live.
Publications
Purchase my book at www.youngadventure.com and reading this alone will be a major relief to your aching mind.
Education/Credentials
Five years of college, 20 years of working in various hands-on fields, and several technical fields.
Awards and Honors
8 semesters on the president's list in college, 10 arm wrestling championships, many local records in cross country running.
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