Expert: Paula Damgaard - 4/3/2008

Question
This is a repeat of yesterday's question because I did not get a notice that you replied and found only accidentaly, one sentence of your reply ,and no notice at all that you sent one on email as usually happens. Would you repeat the whole answer because it is urgent to me. Have been using this site for years (and am also an Expert(military history) Bill Kiewel bkiewel@msn.com

Answer
I think I have sent it to you again. We have a way of going in and resending it please let me know if you don't get it and I will send it again. or give me your email address and I will cut and paste it oHi  Bill, I absolutely agree with you.  Tell him to go to any nursing home and see the patients there that are in end stage dementia.  Tell him that you do NOT want to get there.  When my mother had AD, we as a family decided that she would not receive anymore medications once she was admitted to a home.  She entered the home, able to walk, talk, know us.  But we stopped them regardless.  We knew she had bad lungs (she had smoked 50+ years) and that she was prone to pneumonia every year.  Pneumonia used to be the elderlys best friend til we started medicating with the high power drugs we now have making people live even longer.  Which is a good thing if you have all your marbles!  Anyway, she got pneumonia and died PEACEFULLY four days later.  Best decision we ever made.  My mother would not have wanted to be sitting around "mindless" as you describe.  

I say if you can't get him to agree to your wishes find another doctor.  You must remember that doctors take an oath to "make people well"  to fix them.  So that is why he hesitates.  If you can't get him to change switch!  

I hope this helps you.  Good luck with your quest.  I admire a person who knows what he wants.  I wish more did!  Take care Paula
nto my email and send it that way.