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Mary,
I have tried tricking him into going to the Dr. He is a very hardheaded man. I have even talked to his daughter about him. We have only been married 18 yaers. He is 78 years old, I am only 50 years old His daughter and i are the same age.and we get along really well,so she knows how much i have tried to get him to a Dr.
She has also tried. She tells me that he has always been that way.I really believe he could get very mean .He gets short with me if i talk to him about his health. I just wish there was something I could do short of knoking him out, Believe me i have thought about it alot of times,The only thing is he would kill me. I will not give up on this . I just hope i can get him to a DR.in time.
Sandy, I would concentrate on getting the doctor's help and advice - there may be things he or she can do to help and if nothing else, they might have some ideas and resources that could improve things for you. I would also contact your local Alzheimer's Association and see if they offer anything positive. You need some support with this situation.
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Mary Gordon
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Several years direct experience as caregiver for family member who died of end stage AD. Did lots of research and dealt with a lot of health care professionals and caregivers over the 7 years from diagnosis to the end. Used various care options from community based resources to increasing levels of institutional. Mother of three, two born during our loved one's decline, so I know what it is to be the ham in the sandwich, taking care of the older generation and the younger at the same time and trying to balance everyone`s needs. Ask me, I`ve probably been there, done that. We made lost of mistakes and learned everything the hard way - but you don`t have to! If I can`t answer your question, I`ll steer you to a place or person who can.
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Currently a program manager for a large utility company. My Alzheimers experience comes from having the illness in our family. Out of necessity, we did a lot of research in order to understand the disease, plan for what might come next, and make the right decisions to help and support our loved one. Please note, I am a Canadian living in Toronto, and therefore am not the best person to ask about US regulations and insurance rules!
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