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Mary,
Went to the Dr. I ask that Dr. what changed with my husband 3 years ago the Dr said my husbands heart was to weak for surgery and now he said he had to have the surgery.the Dr. ask me who told me that and i told him he did .he wouldn't answer me he just said he needs the surgery. i think its time for a second dr.what do you think? my husband will not stay on the no salt diet.he sneaks around and hides salt. i told him i will throw out the salt but he says he will buy his self 10 pounds if he wants it. he has been getting really confused after he takes a nap or if he sleeps any. he is still sleeping sitting up . right now my husband is saying no on the surgery but the way he talks it wouldn't take much to change his mind.i told him i would rather have him the way he is right now than not have him at all. i really don't want him to have the surgery because he will wake up and not know who i am. im so worried about him
thank you so much for having this site and for helping me.
sandy
I would definitely look for another doctor. You need someone who you can talk to, who will listen to your concerns and really have a proper discussion with you. This guy doesn't sound like he is very helpful. He actually sounds quite arrogant.
Mary G.
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Mary Gordon
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Several years direct experience as caregiver for family member who died of end stage AD. Did lots of research and dealt with a lot of health care professionals and caregivers over the 7 years from diagnosis to the end. Used various care options from community based resources to increasing levels of institutional. Mother of three, two born during our loved one's decline, so I know what it is to be the ham in the sandwich, taking care of the older generation and the younger at the same time and trying to balance everyone`s needs. Ask me, I`ve probably been there, done that. We made lost of mistakes and learned everything the hard way - but you don`t have to! If I can`t answer your question, I`ll steer you to a place or person who can.
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Currently a program manager for a large utility company. My Alzheimers experience comes from having the illness in our family. Out of necessity, we did a lot of research in order to understand the disease, plan for what might come next, and make the right decisions to help and support our loved one. Please note, I am a Canadian living in Toronto, and therefore am not the best person to ask about US regulations and insurance rules!
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