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Alzheimer`s Disease/dementia & OCD (self-mutilation)


My 84 yo father sustained a catastrophic fall May 2014, (parking lot bumper) FX x 2 to his dominant shoulder, (non-surgical), a multitude of abrasions, 20 days hospital, rehab,(me at his bedside every night, Mom and sister all day) - We have not left him alone, since, ever, except for daily AM walks until recently as his fall risk is increasing. So, one could say we have taken away all personal control of his life, 24/7 supervision. Prior to fall, mild dementia - still drove, independent gait, ADLS, etc but gambling a bit out of control. Since the fall & hospitalization, he began picking every scab, bumps, scratches, etc, waking up next to him in the hospital with the pillow case and his finger nails all bloody. I gloved him at night, he took them off. He's been at home (Mom, sister and part-time help. Currently, he easily has 75 or more open wounds, each surrounded with S & SXs of infection, (on ABX), he removes all bandages, dressings as fast as we can apply. Wound care centers and HH RNS have no answers. Nails are cut short. We cannot glove him because he reads, plays cards, internet games. It is non-stop to the point of self-mutilation. Shorts vs pants don't matter, arms, legs, face, chest - it's now embarrassing to take him out - looks like he fell into a cactus pile. He's OFF Namenda, Seroquel and  Haldol. Currently on ABX, Aricept, Celexa (new) and sleeping more and more so we don't really want to give him Ativan or Xanax. He's also gained about 50 pounds, says he eats out of boredom, I ask him why he's picking, he's says cuz it's fun, he's bored, something to do other than eat. I realize we have taken away 99% of his ability to control his life, daily choices and this may be a control issue, but..... I fear we will end up back in the hospital on IV ABX soon, which means me at the bedside, nightly again, exhausted as I work full-time (Home Health).  ANY MED COMBOs that you think would minimize this OCD?
Thank you in advance.

Hello Sherri:  I apologize for the delay in answering your question--I was out of town.  I'm very sorry to hear of your father's current issues and of you and your family's exhaustion in trying to care for him.  Please remember that I am not a doctor, so could only give an opinion on what I believe some meds might or might not do.  Several things come to my mind as I read your question.  First, he needs a lot more stimulation to take his mind off his injuries.  If he is able to walk, then LONG walks holding hands with the caregiver and engaging in reminiscing at the same time.  What about animals being a diversion for him?  Cats, dogs, horses, etc.  Whatever would hold his interest and if it's feasible to have that animal around him as much as possible--including his helping to care for it would be a great diversion as well as calming for him.  Check out Pete the Parrot which is a talking stuffed toy parrot that many, many elders with dementia find fascinating and will spend hours talking to.  
Secondly, be sure he's getting plenty of protein in his food because he needs it for skin healing.  Keep all the lesions covered as much as possible so he doesn't see them.  Keep him well hydrated.  
It's probably good that he's sleeping more until his lesions heal, but I agree on holding the Ativan or Xanax.  I do like Namenda, but some people just don't respond positively to it.   I also think Lexapro is a better choice than Celexa (same drug company, but Celexa is the older version--and less expensive, but not as effective as Lexapro).  Many docs will say they're the same, but they're not.  If you're not seeing much change within 2 weeks, I would push for a change to Lexapro.  Realize Sherri that the behaviors that are exhausting you now will go away eventually. Also check out HipSavers arm/leg covers that you may be able to use to keep his hands off his lesions awhile longer and they will provide some padding as well.   
Please take care of yourself and urge your family to do the same--work it out so you can get away from him regularly so you can re-charge.  I wish you and your family much luck as you continue to walk with your father on his journey through dementia.  Cindy

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Cindy Keith, RN, BS, Certified Dementia Practitioner


As a nurse and dementia consultant, I can answer most questions on all types of dementia. If I cannot answer your question, I will attempt to find someone who can. My passion is to help caregivers of people with dementia, which in turn helps all those wonderful elders with dementia live better lives. When caregivers are better educated, they are able to better care for themselves and their loved ones, so education is key to decreased stress levels and healthier, happier families.


I have worked as a nurse in various disciplines of nursing for over 20 years, most of which was with the elderly. I was a health care coordinator in a dementia dedicated assisted living facility for 4 years before I started my own business (M.I.N.D. in Memory Care) as a dementia consultant six years ago. As a dementia consultant, I help families nationwide through phone conference calls as they struggle to care for their loved ones with dementia.

Alzheimer's Foundation of America Geriatric Interest Network Sigma Theta Tau International

Published "Love, Laughter, & Mayhem - Caregiver Survival Manual For Living With A Person With Dementia" which is a collection of stories about people with dementia I have known, loved and worked with. Every story has a lesson to teach and this book gently teaches family caregivers lessons about how to better care for their loved one, as well as themselves during their caregiving journey. Published "Love, Laughter, & Mayhem In Eldercare Facilities: The Master Key For Dementia Training" Created "Bringing Nurturing To Memory Care" staff dementia training video Created Ebook: "Hair Stylist's Helpful Tips For Working With People With Alzheimer's & Other Dementias"

Registered Nurse with Bachelor's degree in Nursing; Certified Dementia Practitioner; Author of 2 books and an ebook

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Sigma Theta Tau National Honor Society of Nursing

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