Expert: Paula Damgaard - 5/19/2005

Question
I know my mother has the early stages of Alzheimer's Disease. She is 66 years of age. My mother used to be my best friend,now I don't even know her. She repeats herself constantly. She has mood swings every day. She can't remember where she leaves things.She doesn't want to go anywhere or see anyone. I need help! Trying to get her to a doctor is impossible! I think she knows there is something wrong, but she just won't go. People tell me to just take her to a doctor, but when you are 66 years of age and refuse to go-there is not much a family member can do. Do you have any suggestions?  Thank-You  A CONCERNED DAUGHTER

Answer
Hi Tami, I hope you know that you are not alone in this dilemma!  

First thing is NOT to ask her to go she cannot make that decision.  Make the appointment and then get someone who she still relates to like an old friend to help you take her.  Explain ahead of time to the friend (or relative anyone who you think she will listen to)what is going on and usually they will go with the friend cause they aren't the daughter.

The real advise is to make sure that you have the best doctor picked out.  Calling the Alzheimer's Association and asking them for referrals is a good idea.  You certainly don't want to take her to an "old time" doctor who will look at her and say oh honey you are fine!  That would only make your life totally impossible!  

Good luck.  Let me know how it goes.  Paula