Expert: Michelle J Marshall - 4/9/2007

Question
QUESTION: Hello.  I've been having sex with my girlfriend for some time now and I find she can't (or i can't) make myself climax.  I give her multiple orgasms, and she loves it, but I can't get off.  Any tips or ideas?
ANSWER: Hello,  Can I ask, when having sex is this always in the same position?  If you are in the missionary, you could try the following : Your girlfriend places her hand on your penis and stimulates it while having sex, adding to the pleasure for you, and this does seem to do the trick.  I would also suggest trying different positions, it maybe that the current position just doesn't "do it" for you.  Does this happen with foreplay or is it just with sex?  

Please let me know so I can answer further.

Kind regards

Michelle

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QUESTION: Yes we usually do it in the missionary position but I'm not sure if this hand stimulation would work with a condom.  Also, its also hard to get off during forplay.  

Answer
Hello,

Thanks for replying.  Ah by any chance do you also use a condom during foreplay?  Sorry for so many questions, I am just trying to eliminate things.  I would definitely suggest trying new positions, you could try the doggy position, this is quite popular for both parties or the woman on top.

Is it always hard to get off when a condom is involved?  As many men do seem put off by this and say the stimulation and feeling is no longer there when wearing one.  If this is the case you could also try different types such as  Durex Gossamer which is more comfortable and provides a more natural feeling or Durex Fetherlite which is the thinnest condom available (that I am aware of)
still as safe yet greatly enhances sensitivity during intercourse.

Kind regards

Michelle