Expert: Cyn - 2/15/2008

Question
QUESTION: I am Madison . But every one calls me Madie.I am in 6th grade. Ok so there is this boy called Justin Monckton in my school and I like him alot . But my best friend Hailey likes him to.Lastyear everyone would tell me he liked me. Cuse he would always flirt with me.This year I know my friend knows I like him even though Iv never told her.She is in Justin's class this year and all the time I see her all up on him he knows she likes him but I dont know if he know I like him and I am starting to hate my friend . I also think he likes me too but he does not want to show it cuse he is kind of shy on thoes kind of things what should I do. Should I still be her friend cuse I think she just wants to make me jellous. Pluse I cant stand it any more cuse she always talks about how they flirt.

ANSWER: Well sweetie, this really isn't my area of expertise, but I'll give it a shot.

You're not going to like this answer very much, but it's the honest truth.
Stick it out.  Stay friends with both of them.  Trust me, next year you will all feel differently about different people.  Crushes come and go, and are really good at making you feel pretty rotten, but the best thing to do is to stick by your friends.

Even if something does happen between your friend Hailey and Justin, it's not going to last.  
What's more important to you, your friendship with Hailey, or a guy who's going to have different feelings once you get back from summer break?

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QUESTION: I really like  Justin Monckton this boy in my school I think he likes me I am positive about it. He always stares at me at lunch he once even wrote me a sorry not cuse he played aroun with me and called me names  just how boys flirt with you when they like you.So should I ask him to be my boyfriend and does he like me?

ANSWER: I can't tell you how someone else feels.  It's possible that he may have feelings for you.  
I would recommend just staying friends for right now though, I think it's a bit too early to be jumping into having a boyfriend.

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QUESTION: My friend she really likes this boy and he seem's like he likes her too but when she asked him to be her boyfriend he said no My  friends name is Brayden , and I think it is just cuase her mom is a teacher at our school and Brayden is not aloud to have boyfriends but she has had 2 already and he was one of them .So we think he just said no cause her mom.She wants to know what she3 should do

Answer
Well if her Mom is a teacher at the school, and she's not allowed to have boyfriends, I can definitely see where the boy in question would be leery of crossing her mother.

I still think you should all hold off on the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing for a few more years, but since it doesn't look like that's going to happen, tell your friend that the best thing she can do is be friends with this guy both in school and out of school.
Maybe if her mother sees what a good guy he is and how much fun they have together she'll relax on the no-boyfriend rule.