Expert: Amanda Sarkan - 4/1/2007

Question
this is sanah i am 14 years old and i am having a serious problem with my crush,he doesn't likes me because i have got a bit overweight kind of look in my uniform,but i am perfect in my normal routine cloths the one which i wear at home.He doesn't likes me rather than he likes my best friend whose just not beautiful so please tell me what to do its really urgent because my schools are going to start on 9th of this month so please hurry i am a lot of tensed i just cant even sleap.Ill be greatly thankful to you for this.AND IF YOU ARE LIKED BY ME OR I AM LIKED BY YOU THEN WE CAN BE FRIENDS TOO.

Answer
Sanah

Sorry it took me awhile to get back to you.  I'm 21 and I remember all too well what it is like to be your age and in high school. But please please DO NOT let some boy determine your self esteem.  I know it seems like the world to you now.    I really do, I'm not going to tell you to get over it because I know it effects you greatly.  If he doesn't like you because of the way you look then he is shallow and doesn't deserve you.  Seriously, you want someone who loves you on the inside and for who you truly are.  If he likes your friend, then really you can't control that....as hard as that is.
You have so much to offer, keep working hard at school and in whatever activities interest you.  Focus on yourself now.  When the time comes for someone worthy of you then it will happen.  I've found that when I'm searching for boyfriend nothing fits my standards.  Yet when I work on myself and my dreams it just seems to happen.  I still haven't found the perfect someone yet.  Keep your standards high and don't just settle for any guy as a boyfriend.
Work on your self confidence because that is truly the most beautiful thing.

My email is amanda.sarkan@snc.edu
Feel free to email me anytime.  I'll give you my screen name if you want.

Take care and be good to yourself

Amanda